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Bad Skin Diaries

Lifestyle May 23, 2019

Hey loves- I know it’s been a while.

I’d apologies for not posting something recently but, I just haven’t felt myself. I’ve felt so low, I couldn’t shake the mood I was in and I was constantly over thinking a few of the situations I’m in. Life’s been so hectic and I’ve been miserable- so I thought I’d keep it myself.

Whilst I was down and out I noticed my skin was starting to become dry, a few days later my skin was sore to the touch- even something as simple as speaking left me close to tears.

Other than a few hormonal break outs I’ve never had any issues with my skin- or at least not to this extent- there was never any real pain.

Not to sound dramatic(but I am 100% going to) whilst I’ve been feeling so low, my poor skin only added to my moods. Not only was I down and out, but I was so self conscious- and that left me hating myself.

After a heart to heart with a few of my nearest and dearest, I decided to see a some one about my skin. Moments after walking into my 15 minute appointment I was told I was probably allergic to drug store make up. So, after this diagnosis I marched into my nearest Debenhams like only a pissed off woman can do, and begged for some help at the clarins counter.

And they didn’t disappoint- the lovely ladies didn’t just help me chose some basic products but they helped me feel comfortable enough to talk about how much of a confidence knock I’ve had. After sharing how down I was the amazing women (who I wish I got the names off) told me I how often this happens. So, after buying a lot of new skin care and a heck of a lot of research into some new make up, The bad skin diaries was born(originally being called the shit skin diaries But sometimes I have to be PG).

3 days in.

In the first few days my main focus was taking away the pain, as silly as it sounds I actually missed being able to smile without looking like The Joker. One of the first products to make a difference was the Clarins Lip Oil, £18.00. Being instantly drawn to the pricey product due to the comforting, yet hydrating formula- I wasn’t disappointed. Now, £18.00 for what is essentially a lip balm is more draw dropping than a Jeremy Kyle contest with A full set of teeth- but I will categorically say this product is worth its weight in GOLD.

Just a few days after using this product my lips were so nourished and while the dry skin didn’t miraculously vanish, I was no longer in pain- I could laugh to my hearts content again.

With the introduction of Clarins Skin care, my skin was so much more comfortable. The higher price point initially made me so dubious, but just a few days in my skins texture, look and pain has completely changed for the better.

7 days in

Honestly, just 7 days in, I was shocked with the texture of my skin. By simply swapping my skin care with something a bit pricier and with less shit in it, my skin was no longer painful. Whilst my lips and skin was still dryer than the Sahara, i started to feel so much more comfortable in the way i looked.

In the past week I saw the blisters (yes my skin was so bad I had tiny blisters on my eyes) i had previously on my skin, all but disappear. The swelling in my eye had become barely noticeable. As for my lips, well, they had finally begun to heal. No longer were they flaking. Obviously, they wer still dry and areas of my skin would still peel, but they were no longer bleeding, nor was I reaching for pain killers every time I ate. If you take anything from these posts, make sure its this. BUY A BLOODY LIP OIL.

30 days in

As I’ve reached the end of the very generously travel sized products, clearing had to offer my skin is pretty much how I’d like it. Blisters have gone, my skin is mostly hydrated and I’ve had no break outs in weeks. Right now, I have one patch of dry skin above my eye- but honestly that was the place when my skin issues started. Whilst my skin is healing Inever expected results like this. I never expected things to happen over night but 30 days, no pain, blisters disappearing and skin being moderately hydrated and some what glowwy- I’m in.

Whilst my skin was bad my lips made me feel awful about myself. I love wearing a nude lip, for me, lipstick makes me feel like my make up is finished. So when my lips looked like they were melting off my face, i started to feel so low about myself. And now?

My lips are the best they have been in years. I have one corner of my mouth that’s red. In comparison to a few weeks ago, that is nothing. So, I am hopeful, that in a few weeks, I’ll be finding my lanolin free lipstick. Any recommendations, leave them in the comments.

If you have made it to the end of this very long post, treat yourself to a cup of tea, because babe, you deserve it.

What i do want to say is whilst this post is most definitely Clarins heavy, but if something works, I’m not going to change it. In the past few weeks my skin has pretty much transformed. I’ve spent less time crying over my skin and more time treating it. A combination of the Lip oil, Moisutriser and mask, I can finally say I am comfortable with how my skin looks, and trust me when I say its been a while since I can proudly say that!

Hope you enjoyed he first instalment! I’ll try and get the next one up next week!

Em x

The Life Switch up.

Lifestyle, Ramble all the way..., sex and relationships, Uncategorized March 10, 2019

Hello you beautiful people.

I know, I know its been a while- and for that i am not in the least bit sorry. Life over the past few weeks has been quiet, with quiet came a few realisations. I realised that (and I don’t mean to boast- well maybe a little) but i finally feel like i have my shit together. Trust me, i am just as shocked as any one.

NOW, by no means do i have the answers to all the millennial issues. I am still shit with money, fat and my sex life is dryer than the Sahara desert- i’m just good with it. We are all to often caught saying

‘ you should only look back to see how far we’ve come’

But if you are anything like me, then you will only look to the positives of the past. Nights out, relationships, graduations are all things i compare my current life too. But what about the crippling anxiety, mounds of debt and self esteem lower to than my bank account. If i am to be perfectly honest, i really am bloody happy to be where i am today.

*cough* Cheesey as fuck*cough*

Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

Dieting.

Now lets start with the shit stuff. Dieting. My last blog spoke about my ‘ditching the term plus size’. Hatred for the term probably comes from the negative relationship with my body. Now, i look at dieting as a way to learn how to cook, how to prepare myself for the week ahead and even to a certain extent, how too budget. Dieting has been such an awful experience in the past. From rationing my food to living off 800 calories a day, i never wanted to be the size i am. Yet, here i am the wrong size of 25 with my huge bum and 28 E boobs (and yes, crippling back ache).

Right now i am technically dieting, Slimming world has been a way i can learn how to cook for my new veggie lifestyle. With friends and family not being the most supportive Slimming world has been a great network for recipes.

Dating.

Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

Want some juicy goss? Then go somewhere else.

As with the rest of my life, my romantic life is non-existent- and like my body, i am good with it. Friends of mine are getting married, having babies and me? Well right now, I’m sat in the same room i grew up in drinking a corona, watching an Criminal Minds.

After a few shit relationships I finally understand the importance of being alone.I have replied heavily on my exes, i needed some one to tell me i was okay- as stupid as it sounds i was to scared to live my life independently.

Romantic relationships just isn’t something i am looking for right now, but if Prince Charming wants to fall into my life with a classic Nintendo and a few bottle of beer, then I wouldn’t run away.

Striving for independence.

Independence means a lot to different people. To some it means paying your own bills, to others it means traveling alone, for me? It simply means being comfortable enough to create something that i’ve been to scared too.

A few years back i was scared of everything. My mental health health nose dived, panic attacks took hold and i had no idea what i was doing one day to the next. So for me, its time to finally be able to stand on my own two feet and leave my anxieties in the past.

And goals? You better believe I’ve got them now and right now, i am smashing them (i mean to really, I’m not the Hulk).

  • BUY MY FIRST HOME.
  • BECOME MORE COMFORTABLE WITH WHO I AM.
  • TRAVEL ALONE (even if it is only to centre parks)

Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

Organising my shit

Guys i am pretty okay with admitting that i am not Marie Kondo but i have started appreciating organising my life. Making breakfast the night before, ironing my clothes ready for the week on Sunday night and cleaning my space much more often, has made me feel so much more in control of my own life.

Like with so many things in my life, of course there is most definitely more switch up’s up to come but organising my life has impacted my life so much. I am so excited, to see how the year (and my poor attempt at organisation) goes.

Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

2019 has flown by so quickly, its basically the middle of march and I have no recollection as to what happened to February. This little update and content switch up has been something i have wanted to do for a while. I have spent so much time wasting my life with poor relationships, low self esteem and just accepting that i was always going to unhappy – right now, this couldn’t be further from the truth. I finally feel like i am working towards the things i have always been too scared too.

And i promise to share them with you when i finish them.

Always,

Em x

Time to be your own Valentine?

Lifestyle, Ramble all the way..., sex and relationships, Uncategorized February 12, 2019

Valentines, Galentines, 50% chocolate specials whatever you associate with the season of love, its here. In amongst the new couples, chocolate binges and sobbing singles, Valentine’s Day can be something that takes its toll on so many. Whether you’re a loved up babe or a sassy single, Valentine’s Day should be a day we celebrate our longest relationship; the one we have with ourselves. In the words of Ru Paul, ‘ If you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else’.

I challenge you this Valentine’s Day to celebrate yourself, the challenges you’ve face and the next steps of your life. Realising that you and you alone are solely responsible for all the things you have achieved and will continue to achieve. So grab a nice bottle of plonk, run a bath and leave the world at the door step. If a bubble bath isn’t for you, then its perfectly okay to rewrite the terms of your own valentines night.

Take time.

Okay, before i rant on about turning the world off i am. Fully aware that for many stepping away from the world on a week night probably isn’t an option. Parents, care givers and even people who have to work more than one job don’t get the option of having a night of. Yet their is one option you do have.

Taking your time- once the day is over with, is a luxury. Leaving deadlines at the doors, plodding along with your to do lists, without haste is rewarding. Having the ability to complete tasks without any rush allows you to relax and feel accomplished. Take your time isn’t always a bad thing, remember the tortoise and the hare?

Embrace who you are.

Everyone is different, therefore everyone’s way of relaxing is completely different. Listing to metal, watching the entirety of the Marvel universe and or even sitting in silence. Embracing your favourite things and running with them, is ultimately the most important thing in the season of love. If not, what’s the point? Go on, grab another chocolate and watch another episode of friends, make your soul happy.

Likewise embracing your love life is necessary to surging this sickening loved up month. Unlike, so many on social media, you don’t have to be in a relationship to have a great Valentine’s Day. Amongst the ‘Boys done good’, sea of pandora rings, and new relationships which will be lucky if they last the month, embracing your own relationship status really is important- especially in February.

I am sure at one time or another we have all be shamed for being single, or have been told that the partner we have in our lives just isn’t the one for us. Yet, in the long run, all that matters is that you are happy- the options of sheep shouldn’t rule you life. Embrace what you have even if others don’t agree.

Stop- even if its just for an evening.

As a generation, us millennial love to be busy. We love to complain about the overtime we’ve accrued or the latest amount of responsibility that we have had shoved on our desk. A friend once said, ‘I’m just too busy to take care of myself’, a sad honest truth we are all guilty of saying. Well, isn’t it time we all just stopped and cared for ourselves for just one night. Whether its deleting twitter for a night, or inviting the girls round to dance to all of Atomic Kittens Greatest hits. Taking one night away from the busy life we have, isn’t going to effect anything. Stepping away from distractions is the best way to care for yourself, and isn’t that the best way to be your own valentine?

Treat yourself.

If you are anything like me, then spending time and money on yourself seems to fall by the wayside. Work, bills, social interactions all take president to the pamper we all deserve, The term pamper is personal, for some its having a bubble bath, for others its the full shebang, face masks and all. For me, its a fresh set of gels, a new piercing and an hair cut.

Finding your own way of treating yourself, isn’t selfish. There will always be something you should be doing, or even a task that you could have finished to a higher standard. These trivial aspects of our lives ultimately stop many of us stop treating ourselves, and for what? Absolutely beggar all.

Whether you have a valentine or not this year, treat yourself how you would love them to treat you. Bubble bath, foot rub, a good bottle of wine- sounds amazing to me. Having one night away from the responsibilities which play on your mind not only allows you to rest, but allows for you to focus on the task when you pick it up again.

Remember Valentine’s Day is merely 24 hours, you have the rest of your life to find who you are, embrace it.

Happy V-Day.

Em x

Lazy Girls Guide to Confidence Boosting Skincare.

Lifestyle January 30, 2019

Hello, beautiful!

I’ve been debating writing a post similar to my Lazy Girls guide to Confidence Boosting Skincare, for a few months now. I’ve got such a love/hate relationship with my skin. The hidden secrets and confessions I share within this post are all products I use all the time! So I hope you enjoy! Now, let’s crack on!

Okay guys confession time, I am so lazy when it comes to skincare. Being some one who hates to sleep in make up but hates using approximately 97 products before she can hit the hay- Yeap, I am weird. Over the past few months, I have suffered severely with my skin. Mostly this is due to the combination of hormones and the artic conditions the UK has seen recently. When my skin is in bad shape, I feel terrible. Within the past month my skin has transformed and become much more nourished and dare I say it? Glowing.

The products I have shared with you are my go to products for my very lazy skincare routine. They’re all drugstore but-oh-so amazing.

Gainer Micellar Water, £4.99

Whether you’re a lazy skin care lover(like me) or a skin care aficionado, we can all agree that removing make up is skincare 101. And in my 10+ years of wiping away my poor attempts of instagram make up, I have never found anything as amazing as Garnier Micellar water. This light formula leaves my skin feeling fresh and clean ready for any other steps I fancy.

Another reason I adore this magic little potion is that it is available in most drug stores, supermarkets, airports- basically anywhere you can think of sells this god send.

Tea Tree and Witch Hazel spot stick, £4.49

A Boots own bargain!

Now as a rule I love Boots Tea Tree and Witchhazel range- but this spot stick is something else. When my hormones are at an all time high I get very painful cyst like spots (TMI, I know) which often leave me so conscious about my skin.

Applying this day and night cream to the spots doesn’t automatically change your skin but it does treat the readiness and eases the pain that comes with it. Over a week or two the spot subsides and the scaring really is left to a minimum.

Garnier, fresh-mix tissue mask, £2.99.

After Jamie Genieve raved about these amazing drugstore sheetmasks, I ran to books and bough 6.

The past few months has seen me struggle to apply make up or even just feeling comfortable on my no make up days, due to my sore dry skin. Applying the glow mask a few times a week really has helped my skin find a healthy glow that I’ve always wanted.

Unlike many, this sheet mask is so light and leaves minimal excess on my skin. And the excess product it does leave, is so easy to blend into the skin (with absolutely no effort). Garnier Fresh-Mix sheet masks have revolutionised my skin care- and I’m so happy about it.

Burts bee’s lip scrub, £6.99.

In the words of my best mate ‘Anything Burt’s Bees won’t ever let you down’ and she’s right. I have totally fallen in love with Burts Bees and don’t think I’ve been without a BB product in my hand bag for well over a year.

This honey sugar scrub is quite light and doesn’t leave any residue others do. The serum does club together but only takes a wipe and your lips are nourished and smooth. Perfect, and not messy!

Lanolips, £8.99.

Yes, I was one of the many influenced by Lydia Elise Millen to buy Lanolips. And honestly, it is bloody brilliant.

Adding Lanolips (in rhubarb), to my make up bag allows me to feel so much better even without make up. The nourishing gloss, not only helps my weather hating lips (literally every damn season) but the slight tint just finishes of my basic full face of Make up.

When I don’t use this product my lips return back into the sore dehydrated brains of my life they always are. Lanolips is my cure, for any lip issues I have, and all for £8.99!

Skincare is such a personal thing and if you’re a person who really loves to splurge on skincare then, you do you. Yet, for women such as myself I just don’t feel like an in-depth skincare routine is for me. These simple, yet effective products are things I reach for daily and couldn’t not share these affordable skin care items with you.

Hope you enjoyed!

What do you use in your skincare routine? Do you use any of the products I’ve talked about? Or do you even adore a lavish skincare routine? Please let me know in the comments.

Em x

Happy Birthday, Mum.

Lifestyle, Ramble all the way..., Uncategorized December 21, 2018

On the date this blog post goes live it will be my mum’s birthday. I know many of you don’t know the relationship with my mum. So I thought I would introduce you to my amazing mum.

To celebrate the many years of awful presents, Mediocre gestures and the many forgotten cards, I thought I’d share with you just five things that my mum has taught me over the past 26 years. You see, my mum is pretty much one of my hero’s, as much as we argue, take the piss and annoy the crap out of each other. In a nutshell I know that no matter the situations life puts me in, I can cope because of the lessons she’s taught me.

So, mum, if you ever find your way onto this blog I simply wanted to say thank you for:

The definition of strenght.

I’ve made no secret on my blog that i have struggled with anxiety since me teens. What I may or may not have shared with you is my mum suffers with something similar. Throughout the years I have seen my mum battle with her mental health for years. Something that when I finally was diagnosed, I knew how to cope.

You see whilst my mum may sometimes feel like it,she has never given up. She gets up, goes to work, sees family and have a better social life than I ever have. Her mental health has its moments when things seem to go a little off yet, no matter the situation she has never given up on anything she has started. My mum is truly the strongest woman I know.

Mental health is difficult for anyone, sometimes our life has to stop to be able to start again down the line. Yet, for all intesive purposes my mum never has. If she was totally honest with her self, just for a moment she would find that no matter her struggle she has accomplished so much more than her self doubts would ever let her believe. Mental health issues or not, my mum will always be my hero.

It’s perfectly acceptable to say no.

One major difference between my mum and is how we show our affection for one and other. I, on one hand show love through hugs, and openly saying I love you. Yet, my mother is much more subtle in the way she shows her affection.

Offering her love through coffees and the occasional ‘are you okay?’. In her own way she reassures me through life’s problems, and whilst we often butt heads its our differences that makes the pair of us (I hope) realise that once I eventually own my own home, how much we will miss our caffeine filled arguments.

Any way my point with this is that, hugs, saying I love you and even the occasional pats on the back, sometimes make people feel uncomfortable- my mum for one. Each individual has there own comforts, for me that’s a hug at the end of the day, for my mum its running her a bath or making a brew she will ultimately not drink. In any case saying not to someone offering affection isn’t a weakness, its how someone else deals with their problems, when they and only they are ready they will come and let you know when you are needed.

It’s perfectly acceptable to laugh at your own jokes.

Whilst my mum and I may show our affection differently we both think we are hilarious. A sea of dirty jokes, jugedgments and sarcasm will ripen any sour day. This point may be little, and may be silly to some but this is my favourite characteristic of my mum. Her ability to laugh in any situation- even if it is some what inappropriate.

Mum, I love you to bits, keep making your dirty jokes, innuendos and I hope you continue to cackle through the next 365 days and more.

Don’t give up on people even if they give up on themselves.

Okay, now here’s this thing about my mum, whilst she may not be touchy feely, she has never given up on me, or for any one in her life for that matter. In the past I have made many mistakes, some I still regret to this day, but she has always taught me that the mistakes we make only shape the person we become. It doesn’t matter who you were 3 years ago it matters who you are right now.

So mum, here’s a little cheers to you, you have taught me so much more than this little list. We often argue, share chocolate and eye rolls, bu what I love about our realtionship the most is that no matter the time, place or even time of the month weve always got each other’s backs.

Simply put, the pair of us have been through a shit tone of stuff and there is plenty more to come. Whilst the world around us is constantly changing, my pure admiration for you will and has never differed.

I LOVE YOU MUM!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

P.S. Pornstar martinis to follow shortly.

A Winter Retreat at Home.

Lifestyle, Ramble all the way... December 13, 2018

A winter retreat, sounds beautiful doesn’t it?

Well, the ladies at Build a Life You Love thought so too. So this wonderful Mother/Daughter duo put pen to paper and wrote the most refeshing mental health book there is( well at least I think so). The Winter retreat takes you on a ‘journey’ of self care. By breaking down different areas of your life allowing you to focus and better your mental health, life and values.

I was lucky enough to receive a copy of ‘ The Winter Retreat’ from the wonderful ladies at Build a Life You Love- and I have to say its been a game changer. The festive time isn’t a period I don’t look forward too. Not because I hate christmas but I don’t like the effects the season of goodwill has on my mental health.

In the past I have spoken openly about my struggles with anxiety, so when Buble starts playing in every store in the land and people run about with a manic look in their eye, I become totally overwhelmed.

‘Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of some one else’- Judy Garland.

The Winter Retreat by Build a Life You Love, is one of the most important books I’ve ever read. In many ways this book is a self help guide but I personally like to call it my ‘ get me through life book’. The Winter Retreat allows you to asses all areas of your life including Money, your body and your virtual space. Throughout the book some pages are left blank, to allow you to asses your own life and map out how you can move forward positively.

Like the post is shared with you, yesterday, The Winter Retreat is all about having the ability to cope when you are overwhelmed. By assessing certain areas of you life and focusing on positively moving forward, The Winter Retreat can be a base of positivity of your life. For me personally certain pages spoke to me more than others. These points have been studied within an inch of its life and honestly, I never want to be with out this self help guide!

Throughout this post I wanted to share with you how this book relates to my life, in hopes that you think this guide will help you too. Remember folks, we all need a helping hand sometimes and this could be yours.

Your Body.

‘ There are sounds everywhere, Slow Down, take your time and breathe.’- The Winter Retreat.

In times of chaos we completely ignore the amount of rest our body needs, The Winter Retreat has a whole section on finding what your body needs- rest. Wrapping up in your thickest coat and snuggliest scarf, and going for a walk, listening to an audio book in the bath, are both ways people allow their body to rest. Finding your own ways to rest is key to feeling more like yourself and not an imposter.

Your Money.

‘ Take your time and try to spend ever penny but no more’.- The Winter Retreat.

As per many millennials out there I am awful when it comes to money. Whilst at uni i got into a lot of debt. I had overdrafts on my overdrafts- I never realised how difficult it would to pay them back or even find a job to afford to pay the awful things back. Yet, it happened- still to this day I don’t quite know how.

This part of the book spoke on another level. Christmas is upon us and like so many around I tend to go a bit swipe happy with my bank card. Nights out, christmas presents and what ever festive outing is thrown your way. Sticking to a budget is difficult in general but at christmas it becomes so much harder. The Winter Retreat discusses ways to budget effectly no matter the season.

Your Virtual Space.

‘Whatever we think about social media, it seems to be here to stay. So how about using it to enhance your life’-The Winter Retreat.

As a blogger I am fully aware at how toxic the virtual space can be. However, what blows my mind more is the ability the online world has to allow unlikely freindships to bloom. Take my relationship with Steph, for example. We met through blogging and my life would be missing much loved friendship without her. For that and that alone, blogging has enhanced my The Winter Retreat has enabled me to plan a few more things I never believed I could do.

Your community.

How about slowing everyone down and writing a letter.’ – The Winter Retreat.

Adoring your friends and family from behind a phone screen is something that everyone has done- I personally know I am guilty of it. My friends and close family so dear to me yet, I am still glued to my phone 90% of the time- and vice versa.

Putting your phone down and spending time with your loved ones is a retreat in itself. Even when arguments arise and the tensions settle ask yourself if you would want to be anywhere else?

Your Spirit.

‘ The final excersize in our Winter Retreat vision board.’- The Winter Retreat.

Spirit, means a lot of different things to different people- a ghost, your soul or even an alcoholic measure. Needless to say in this case YOUR SPIRIT is in regards to the motivation that comes from working on yourself. The spirit that pushes you to become better and develop your own goals and ambitions.

With the changes the book introduces the final segment of The Winter Retreat, introduces the motivation to finally put plans into action, for me it was questions about my body image and future career, for you? Well the possibilities are endless.

LETS BE HONEST, NOW.

This book will only help change your life if you want it too. Buying this book will not immediately change your life – its not the good fairy from cinderella. What `this book does do allow you to do is look at your own life and find the changes YOU want to make.

The Winter Retreat, cost £20 and is available here. I understand £20 can seem a lot but if you are feeling a little overwhelmed this book would be perfect for you.

I know this ‘review’ isn’t a generic review but I wanted to share my reaction to The Winter Retreat. This book has helped me put my thoughts in order and gave me the ability to really focus on my future. So thank you to Build a Life You Love for creating such a wonderful self care guide.

Always love,

Em x

A disclaimer: I answered a twitter ad an got accepted to review this wonderful book. I pride myself on being totally honest throughout my content so this review is in no way false. I truly love this book. For some one like me, it really is perfect!

Three tips for finding relaxation in the festive season.

Lifestyle, Ramble all the way... December 12, 2018

In a mist of shoppers regret, over prices train fares and Christmas parties, it’s safe to say the season of good will, can leave you feeling pretty low. Some days your left with no energy and a headache which will only be cured by drinking your body weight in mulled wine. The festive season may be fun for some but for others it can only bring a crisis of confidence.

As an anxiety sufferer Christmas often leaves me feeling a little hopeless. Jumping from one task to the next, on a constant conveyer belt of ‘ festive joy’ that leaves me feeling numb. In previous years, Christmas has left me feeling panicked and my confidence in tatters. The introduction of the three tips I am about to share with you has turned the festive season into something I look forward too(rather than despise). I hope some of the tips I share within this post will help you find relaxation within the festive season

Create a relaxing space.

I for one can vouch that working in a space filled to the rafters, will only cause more stress and mental strain. Finding some where in the world which doesn’t feel so overwhelming can be tough- many don’t even seem to find calm in their own home. Having a room, a chair or even a corner where you can just be, is something that will allow your mind to settle.

When you do find somewhere to yourself it is important that you create a space in which you feel comfortable in. Blankets, books, candles are all great but if they don’t bring you (and only you) comfort then they become a bit redundant. If gaming or even playing the spoons calms your nerves then its important your space should reflect it. For me writing is calming, creating a blog post and adding to a novel I’m currently dreaming up settles my anxiety- so creating a relaxing space for me revolves around that.

Take your time.

At times the festive season can give F1 a run for its money. People in general seem to be hurrying through the day. Things that probably could wait a little while have to be done right that second, others demand constant attention without a mere ‘Thank you’. Christmas and the festivities that come with the it are hectic- there’s no other way of putting it.

In the midst of everyone else’s whirlwind, it is sometimes easy to forget that it is perfectly acceptable to take things at your own pace. For the season of goodwill, there seems to be a lot of panic and carnage in it wake.

Three questions should be asked when things around you seem to be going at a 100 miles an hour:

  • Does it have to be done right now?-If it does need to be ticked off the to do list imminently then deal with it straight away. Prioritising tasks is difficult but it will help you deal with christmas effectively and on your own terms.
  • Can it be completed online?-For people who feel uneasy within a crowded enviroment. Sometimes the effects of being in a confined space can last for days. If buying a gift or booking an appointment can be done online, surely it would be much more beneficial to do so.
  • And is it worth it?-If a lynx gift set is really that important to Aunt Jean, then she may need to re-evaluate her lifestyle. Ask yourself this question when everything festive (or not) leaves you feeling drained, unappreciated and pissed off. Is this gift/experience worth leaving you in feeling low? No, it isn’t.

Taking your time is not selfish, having a moment when you need to is necessary when it comes to surviving the Christmas carnage. Allowing yourself to go at your own pace is an effective way to ensure that all your tasks are done without hindering your mental health, confidence and Christmas experience.

Spend time with people who love you.

As cliche as this sounds spending time with people who love you is an instant method of relaxation. A cuddle from your partner, a cup of tea from a grand parent or even a snuggle from a beloved pet have all be scientifically proven to relax. In the spirit of christmas, we often forget how important spending time with loved ones is. We never know what is happening in some one else’s head, so spending time with people who make our hearts happy may not only benefit you.

Mental health, low confidence and feeling generally exhausted are all things which shouldn’t effect christmas- yet they do. With 1 in 4 people in the UK dealing with depression, Christmas can often lead to unnecessary stress. Finding your own ways to block out other peoples issues is difficult, but ultimately necessary for surviving the christmas period.

Whether you are a Grinch or a Christmas lover this time of year is difficult for everyone. If the tips I have shared with you have helped in any way then please let my know in the comments below. Alternatively feel free to share your own tips for surving christmas.

Always love,

Em x