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2018.

Lifestyle December 31, 2018

Let me set the scene, this time last year I was still massively in love with my ex, intent on losing weight and had I wanted the world – but with minimal effort. Even to this day I can’t quite understand what possessed the changes that 2018 brought, all I do know is I will be forever grateful for the life lessons 2018 has taught me.

Now by no means did any of these life lessons come easy, every change usually came after a heartbreaking decision which left me questioning myself. With the help of gin, laughs and even blogging 201, has become a year which turned into a surprising, yet thrilling

Throughout this post, I will share with you the things that I have learnt over the past year. From simple naive things my past self never knew, to the mammoth career change which allowed me to find my focus and fall in love with writing all over again. 2018, may have brought questionable political issues and a love of avacado no millenial ever knew they needed- but to me, 2018 has allowed me to realise that i am enough.

It doesn’t matter what others think of you.

NOW, where do I begin with this? In the past I have spent so much time worrying about how I come across to others. Constantly worrying that people who logically have no real impact on my life, don’t like more or judge my every movement. In past years its sent me into an anxious spiral which in turned into a battle with my own mental health. After being put on antidepressants a few months back, my mental health challenge began to subside, and with that I could build a sense of self. A sense of self that I have never had in the past 26 years of existence. And for that I will be forever grateful.

Embrace change.

As i looked back on the year i realised how much my life has changed. At the moment of those changes I began to have every area in my life questioned- not only by those around me but by myself too.

As time went on (literally talking 6 months, plus) I realised, whilst I still question my every move, I was still continuously moving forward. Whether or not others thought so, I was noticing the changes and that was enough. Every day I got up at 4.30 am, went to work and attempted to rectify any issues I had created the day before. This alone showed a tenacity I never knew I had. Yay, for me.

It’s perfectly okay not to be like your friends- And they should respect that too.

I have to say this could be my proudest achievement, my friends are beautiful, career driven, family focused women who constantly inspire me to push my own boundaries. Yet, for years I compared myself to them, so much so that it often left me feeling slightly insignificant. Actually more than slightly.

Realising that I am just as capable as my amazing friends, even with my Bridget Jones’ tendencies. Em Rambles is just as brilliant as so many others, all I had to realise was that I am totally worth it.

Saying no isn’t negative.

I’ve always wondered if saying no was a sign of weakness. Through out this year the term no, has gone from a negative term,into the most empowering word I know. I said no to a ex, I said no to toxic thoughts and I said no to others judgements holding me back.

Saying no is by no way derogatory, its empowering. Everyone should know the power of saying no.

Screw diamonds, chocolate is a girls best mate.

Think about it, period pains> chocolate. Break up> Chocolate. Life happens> Chocolate. No matter the time or issue, i find myself reaching for a bar of Dairy Milk, usually only last approximately 6.5 seconds.

No matter the shit storm, chocolate will always be my therapist, lover and ultimate comfort- as long as I ignore the calories and bulging waistline.

Dress however, the bloody hell you want.

Every man woman and child, at one point in their lives will feel down about their body. We will mutter things such as ‘ my arms look massive in this’, ‘I can’t wear this ‘cause off my huge muffin top’ and I promise not to mention those ‘thunder thighs’ you think you have. In any case, every question we mutter in front of the mirror, is only wasting time. Wear what your scared too and if any one has something to say, flick your hair and carry one.

They’re only jealous anyway.

You can find happiness in the simplest of places.

Not to go all Harry Potter esque on you, but I’ve come to realise that happiness comes from the smallest things. The rush of caffeine after your first coffee, taking your bra of immediately after entering the house and doing a boobie shake and even the pure satisfaction you get after ticking the last thing of your to do list. These simple pleasures we all know can make a bad day a little less shit and more freeing (literally).

2018 has been such a learning curve for me personally. The things I have spoken about above are all things that I have come to realise within the last 12 months. Whether you’re year has been amazing or the worst of your life I ask you to look for the positives. Even when the world seems dark, there will be one spark of positivity which can ease the bad days, whether its a pet, a loved one or even a cup of tea and a good book.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post and I hope it has you thinking about the life lessons 2018 has taught you. Leave a comment below and share them with my, and we can celebrate together.

Here’s to an amazing 2019!

Em Rambles. X

To the women, who don’t know…

Lifestyle, Uncategorized May 15, 2018

F7DA3C81-7F32-44C5-880E-F3F04F864F43Women, arguably the better sex (let’s face it we are), we empower each other, sometimes without even knowing it. From the caring drunk girls at the club, to the empowered CEO who owns the boardroom, or the mummies who give their lives to the next generation, women are pretty incredible. As much as I am aware that men thrive in all areas too, I personally find something amazing about the undeniable tenacity As much as I am aware that men thrive in all areas too, I personally find something amazing about the undeniable tenacity of females. Sorry, but really not, sorry of females. Sorry, but really not, sorry.

This post isn’t about feminism, this is a post aimed to share the women who make me, me. Who make me strive to be better, who make me want to focus my heart on soul into a career. Basically, this is a nod to the women who indirectly make me feel empowered but will never know it.

*Sam the Accountant.

First up, let’s call her *Sam the accountant. Sam* rocks all outfits with a fuck this shit attitude. Whenever she walks in a room people know she’s there. From her, oh I just woke up like this tousled hair to the, can walk for miles in six inch heels kind of look. She not only owns her look but she commands a room.

And what does Sam* make me want to be you ask? Confident. Sam may not be confident all the time- none of us ever are, but she has confidence in her own abilities. Doubting yourself aides fuck all nothing, it limits your self-worth, tames your talent and creates havoc on your ambition. If I am ever to learn anything from Sam* I hope it’s to own your talents and wear them with pride. You go Sam.

Tory*, the nail tech.

Now this one is a little strange- a little like Tory*. Tory* is currently in her own word having a Spiritual crisis. With her emotions telling her one thing and she body telling her another. Does she let anything stop her? No. Day dreaming her way through life, one achievement at a time, she surpasses even her own expectations- not that she would ever stop to see that.

What have I learnt from Tory*? Day dreaming shouldn’t be sniffed at, it should be embraced. By nature both Tory* and I are day dreamers. We are often told to get our heads out of the clouds and into something productive. Yet, what if one day our day dreams become a reality? What if the day dreams which help is get through the day, are in fact out brains trying to remind us, of our goals, form becoming a writer to becoming a family?

Keep day dreaming Tory*.

Sophie, the mommy.

Okay, so Sophie, kind of one of my besties but here’s the thing. We live over 400 miles apart. Sophie does anything she can for her little one. She struggles daily with chronic pain which sometimes can leave her more than a little anxious. Does that stop her from being a mum? NO. Does that stop her from running her own business? No. DOES IT STOP HER FROM BEING MY AGONY AUNT AFTER I’VE FUCKED UP FOR THE MILLIONTH TIME? Nah, she laughs and reminds me I’m a hufflepuff.

And what have I learned from soph*? Love.

{Inserts break for vomiting.}

Soph showed me that no matter what you are going through, no matter the reason, the people who love you will always give you a reason to strive to be better. Sometimes the empowerment you need is at the end of a hug, and I love you or even a bottle of tequila. Soph* is an amazing mum that worries about her abilities, she need to never do that. Soph* you are truly amazing.

 

*People who I have mentioned throughout this blog posts names have been changed, to protect them and myself from any embarrassment in the future.

Women are often type casted as bitches, as people who will tear someone down when there are unhappy themselves. Yet, all too often its other women that push us (yes, shocker I am female, too) to continue to be better. To build a world of positives rather than negative. It might just be me, but I wanted to share a little nod to the women who may not know it, but have a huge impact in my life.

Thank you, your boss ass babes.

Always love,

Em x