What blogging means to me.

Blogging, right now, is completely the love of my life. I love spilling out my ideas into words, even if noone reads them. My little blog, is just that. Mine.

Over the past year I have grown a little in confidence. Blogging has completely attributed to that. After finally being able to home in on the content that I want to create, I finally was able to start accepting my flaws and laugh the embarrassment of yet another fuck up away.

Truth be told I probably have an unhealthy attachment to the blogosphere. From dispising trolls and championing bloggers when they succeed. Blogging brought me out of my shell and allowed me to figure out ,somewhat ,who I wanted to be.

I will be forever grateful for that.

Having a voice.

For years I never felt my opinion mattered; I didn’t think I did. Being able to express that on my blog, to find others felt the same shocked me to my core.

The more I wrote, the more I found my opinion mattered. For months I didn’t understand that people were actively responding to the words I was using. I found a voice, that people didn’t seem to hate. And in time I started to listen to my own views more and more.

Bad dates, lack of confidence, my hatred of the way I look- I have pretty much shared my insecurities with every reader. The more I wrote the more I accepted the things that had happened to me, the shit I’ve done and laugh at the down right questionable experiences.

I found that I may just be somewhat relatable to others. And sharing my weird experiences, views and innuendos, might just make others feel less of a fuck up.

Relatable vs Luxury ?

With so many bloggers in the bloggersphere, everyone has blogs which relate to them. For me, personally, blogging is relatable. Even inspiring luxury blogs still home some sort of relatable aspects for most. Take Lydia Elise Millen, for example. Sure, she buys handbags I can only dream off, travels to places I may never see in my life time, but she is relatable. Her openness about mental health, feeling inadequate in not only her life but in the blogosphere and of course, her love of Zoflora.

No matter the genre, blogging is relatable to almost every person alive.

There’s so many bloggers.

According to Aquora.com, that in 2013 there was 152 million bloggers in the world. A figure which has grown rapidly since.

I have to admit even I was shocked at that figure- although not surprised. Of course there are a heck of a lot of bloggers out there, but that isn’t a bad thing. There is so much choice out there for readers. Genuine content, amazingly beautiful images and likeable bloggers thrive in the blogosphere.

The amount of bloggers for me personally, shown the amount of people that needed some where to find their voice. To share their loves, excitement and hopes for the future. As cheesey at the cheese counter at Sainsbury’s, blogging has allowed so many creators to find a voice, confidence and friends- it makes my heart burst with pride.

And me?

I love being relatable. Blogging for me has been something that I can be 100% honest with. The embarrassment of walking into doors, honesty about my life and even really dodgy fake tans- I hope my take makes others feel better about their misgivings.

Blogging is relatable to the reader- it’s that simple. A blog post may not be relevant to you at that time, but in six months, a year or even 5, it just may be.

Right now, I talk a lot about my point of view in life. And honestly that isn’t going to change. For me, product reviews can be saved for bloggers such as Debra Bow, travel for I’m just a girl and luxury Lydia Millen.

Being laugh out loud, relatable is me. And my blog should represent that. In such a (hate the word vomit I’m going to spill) saturated industry, you are you’re own selling point and if others don’t like it, then there’s plenty of other people that will.

Blogging is amazing. It’s that simple. I don’t intend in dropping it from my life or changing the content I create.

I am so happy I found blogging. It allows me to share my dorky stories, embrace the chaos and champion the new chapters in my life. Thank you for the people who continue to support me

Always love,

Em x

Self Love Tag

So, the little babe that is Chole, tagged me in the self-love tag. And I thought it was about time I stopped putting myself down and remember that even though some days I walk around with my leggings on backwards, I’m alright.

Without blowing my own trumpet, let’s get on with the Self Love Tag.

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Of course, the love of my life needs to be shown in this tag!

What’s Getting you down at the moment?

Right at this very moment my bonkers hormones are getting me down. As a whole, my anxiety has really been amplified recently. I have no idea why or if there is a specific reason for it but sometimes I hate the thought of going out of the house because of it.

What makes you happy?

I am such a home bunny, so being at home. Being all snoodled up in my dressing gown and slippers really does make me so damn happy it’s unreal. Throw in a musical sound track and I am in my own little pod of happiness.

I should also mention my smelly little dog in this, too. He’s so happy all the time and it’s so lovely to be around.

Three Guilty pleasures.

Craig David- I know all the words to fill me in and I don’t intend on stopping blasting that bad boy out on the motor way!

Peppermint Tea- not necessarily a guilty pleasure, but drinking tones of it a day definitely makes me feel guilty!

Bridge to Terabithica- YES YOU READ THAT RIGHT. I love it. I sob every time.

What is something about yourself you’d like to improve on?

I’d love to improve on my confidence. In fact that’s one of the reason’s I haven’t met some of the girls I’m desperate too! I can’t help thinking this podgey blogger (yes, that’s what I shall call myself from now on), will be a little bit of a let-down.

When was the last time you belly laughed?

I have no idea how long ago it was, but it was a while- bit sad really. I laughed so hard at some little sarcastic thing my mum did. We are so similar, so when it comes to sarcasm- we know what’s going to happen before it does.

What is your biggest insecurity and fear?

Ooo, this is delving a little deep, isn’t it? Erm, I’d have to say that I will end up alone. I think because I’m an only child it makes me really aware that I could end up that way. At least I will always have wine.

Name a song that always cheers you up when you’re down

Craig David- Fill me in. Obvs.

Name 3 things you like about yourself

I like my eyes- their almost black and I can’t hide my emotions behind them (if that makes sense).

I don’t think I’m a bad person. I may have been in the past but you definitely learn to be yourself as you grow older. And as I stand right now, I’m not horrible.

I wear my heart on my sleeve. A hindrance and one of my favourite things about myself. When I go through something it’s so obvious. I just can’t hide it. With that everyone knows where they stand with me. They know why I don’t answer their texts, they know why I give them that extra cuddle; I am transparent.

What is an achievement that has made you proud of yourself this year?

GETTING THROUGH THIS DAMN YEAR. Honestly this year has been the most draining year I have ever had in my life- if I make it to the end with my sanity in tack then I’ll be lucky.

Tell us your happiest memory

A few weeks before my grandad passed away we went to a family wedding. He was so contented- or at least he looked it. There’s been so many memories that make me happy but that’s the one I revert back too.

I’m pretty sure that everyone I would tag has already completed the self-love Tag, so if you reading this post hasn’t then, I nominate you too. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves how happy our lives can be.

What to expect from this little blog!

Sometimes, just sometimes I am so flawed by the blogging community. The support I have seen and received ALWAYS out ways the trolls- let’s face it, trolls are only key board warriors anyway. I absolutely adore our community, it has its flaws but, seriously, who doesn’t?

As I sit writing this post, with mocha and occasionally dreaming about my holiday, I can’t help but think how far I have come. Just a tweet away there are men and women who inspire me to go on in my best moments, but there are also so many others that support me at my weakest. All I can say is thank you, and I’m sure you know who you are.

After reading Lydia Millen’s Code of Conduct post, I realized that my old content was a little forced. With many post’s trying to ‘fit’ the idea of a life style blogger – when there isn’t one. Mainly due to listening to insecurities rambling on at 2 in the morning, my content changed. And that is something I intend to rectify. We all don’t have to fit into one blogger bIMG_2581.JPGox- something I think we all should remember.

 

Relatability

First and foremost, I want this blog to be somewhere I want to go back to when things get too much- my blog is for me as much as anyone else(slightly selfish I know). Where I can remind myself of a time what I felt like life got a little too much and remind myself of the demons I met and obliterated*insert amazing wonder woman feeling here*.

I am relatable. I am the girl who, blows out a candle and miraculously sets her hair on fire- we all know one. We have all felt alone; from mental health to embarrassing yourself on a date- at some point in our lives we have all had the awful feeling of feeling alien in a world we are desperate to belong too. I’d love for this space to help others feel a little less like an outsider and more empowered.

Positivity and motivation

Hopefully, this little space of mine will be positive. No trolls, bullies or anything else life wants to throw at us is allowed (unless used for motivating). Any comment’s I see to be anything other than constructive will be deleted.

Motivation is incredibly important. As I grow older my motivation changes, as a teen I was driven by money but now, I just want to be comfortable with my life. Of course there will be motivational blogs, I feel like sometimes we all need someone to kick us up the arse, but I want my post to empower you; you can honestly do anything you set your mind too.

Future.

I have literally no idea where life will take me and I am not sure I want it too either. I learn from every mistake, from every failure and challenge. After spending years, ‘planning’ my life, I am so looking forward to the challenges that come along. And of course taking you guys along for, what I am sure will be a bumpy ride.

Here’s to hitting a few more Bumps!