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The Life Switch up.

Hello you beautiful people.

I know, I know its been a while- and for that i am not in the least bit sorry. Life over the past few weeks has been quiet, with quiet came a few realisations. I realised that (and I don’t mean to boast- well maybe a little) but i finally feel like i have my shit together. Trust me, i am just as shocked as any one.

NOW, by no means do i have the answers to all the millennial issues. I am still shit with money, fat and my sex life is dryer than the Sahara desert- i’m just good with it. We are all to often caught saying

‘ you should only look back to see how far we’ve come’

But if you are anything like me, then you will only look to the positives of the past. Nights out, relationships, graduations are all things i compare my current life too. But what about the crippling anxiety, mounds of debt and self esteem lower to than my bank account. If i am to be perfectly honest, i really am bloody happy to be where i am today.

*cough* Cheesey as fuck*cough*

Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

Dieting.

Now lets start with the shit stuff. Dieting. My last blog spoke about my ‘ditching the term plus size’. Hatred for the term probably comes from the negative relationship with my body. Now, i look at dieting as a way to learn how to cook, how to prepare myself for the week ahead and even to a certain extent, how too budget. Dieting has been such an awful experience in the past. From rationing my food to living off 800 calories a day, i never wanted to be the size i am. Yet, here i am the wrong size of 25 with my huge bum and 28 E boobs (and yes, crippling back ache).

Right now i am technically dieting, Slimming world has been a way i can learn how to cook for my new veggie lifestyle. With friends and family not being the most supportive Slimming world has been a great network for recipes.

Dating.

Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

Want some juicy goss? Then go somewhere else.

As with the rest of my life, my romantic life is non-existent- and like my body, i am good with it. Friends of mine are getting married, having babies and me? Well right now, I’m sat in the same room i grew up in drinking a corona, watching an Criminal Minds.

After a few shit relationships I finally understand the importance of being alone.I have replied heavily on my exes, i needed some one to tell me i was okay- as stupid as it sounds i was to scared to live my life independently.

Romantic relationships just isn’t something i am looking for right now, but if Prince Charming wants to fall into my life with a classic Nintendo and a few bottle of beer, then I wouldn’t run away.

Striving for independence.

Independence means a lot to different people. To some it means paying your own bills, to others it means traveling alone, for me? It simply means being comfortable enough to create something that i’ve been to scared too.

A few years back i was scared of everything. My mental health health nose dived, panic attacks took hold and i had no idea what i was doing one day to the next. So for me, its time to finally be able to stand on my own two feet and leave my anxieties in the past.

And goals? You better believe I’ve got them now and right now, i am smashing them (i mean to really, I’m not the Hulk).

  • BUY MY FIRST HOME.
  • BECOME MORE COMFORTABLE WITH WHO I AM.
  • TRAVEL ALONE (even if it is only to centre parks)
Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

Organising my shit

Guys i am pretty okay with admitting that i am not Marie Kondo but i have started appreciating organising my life. Making breakfast the night before, ironing my clothes ready for the week on Sunday night and cleaning my space much more often, has made me feel so much more in control of my own life.

Like with so many things in my life, of course there is most definitely more switch up’s up to come but organising my life has impacted my life so much. I am so excited, to see how the year (and my poor attempt at organisation) goes.

Photographer: Rebecca Walker.

2019 has flown by so quickly, its basically the middle of march and I have no recollection as to what happened to February. This little update and content switch up has been something i have wanted to do for a while. I have spent so much time wasting my life with poor relationships, low self esteem and just accepting that i was always going to unhappy – right now, this couldn’t be further from the truth. I finally feel like i am working towards the things i have always been too scared too.

And i promise to share them with you when i finish them.

Always,

Em x

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Three 2018 realisations.

This year has been the year of,like, realising stuff- Kylie Jenner.

2018, has been a year I needed. An eye opening realisation, that the only thing holding my life back was me. And believe me it’s something I’ve rectified.

Over the years I’ve always thought I had to be some one else- that showing the real me would leave me lonely and insecure. Whilst at times I still feel those things in abundance, accepting who I am has only made me happier. With being happier my somewhat dull personality shines through, all the dorky, sarcastic and slightly flirty characteristics that once made my skin crawl sends me into hysterics. In short, 2018 is the year I finally accepted the person who I am and dropped my persona.

I’ve lost people along the way.

Towards the end of 2018, I backed away from a lot of friendships. Some I massively regret, others I’m not in the slightest bit bothered about. Losing the friends I have over the past 9 months has made me realise that friendships aren’t a two way street. Often one has feels the need to be there far more than the other. It’s unfair, but severely honest.I have always kept my friendship group small, I’m just not a ‘friends with everyone and their dogs, instantly’ kind of girl. And that’s perfectly okay.

In friendships I look for comfort. Comfort in the knowledge, that if I didn’t speak to a friend for months, if I needed them- they’d be there. Friends which bring sarcasm, prosecco and chic flicks after a break up( or just a Sunday). Being comfortable in any relationship is a big deal, and focusing on friendships which bring me nothing but comfort and sarcasm, are my best kinds of friendships.

Being selfish.

I’ve been pretty selfish over the past twelve months. And I am completely not ashamed to admit it. I’ve previously spoken about my anxiety and the struggles I have with confidence, being selfish was and still is needed.

I’ve slowly learnt to put myself first, to make my goals and happiness a priority. Waving goodbye to negative impacts, people and clothing(we’ve all got that sneaky dress hanging in our wardrobes that we will never fit back into). Over the past 9 months I feel better not only in my own skin but in the person who I am.

I may not be as confident as I would hope to be, but steps are being taken to unleash my inner Miranda priestly whilst of course embracing my Miranda heart qualities.

Accepting being alone.

For the longest time I’ve wanted to be with someone. I’d love to come home to a cuddle after an awful day at work, but unfortunately life had other plans for me. And as I write this post I Am so great fun it’s worked out that way.

Right now, I have some amazing changes coming, things that wouldn’t be a alive toe if I wear to be coupled up. As a rule I feel so empowered to continue to create a life that I want, that I deserve. I will never be the shell of a girl I once was and it wasn’t until I writing this post I realised, that no man ‘saved me’. I did, well, me, the girls and copious amount of gin.

In the next week I will be sharing some of the amazing news I’ve received recently. I can’t wait to share what is coming- 2019 is going to be the year of an empowered Em- and it’s about bloody time!

Always,

Em x

Finding my style: Finding myself.

2018 has been a year and a half, hasn’t it? From awful political figures to the weirdest British summer of the century, 2018 seems to have everything.

For me personally, I found that my style massively reflects my mood. If I love a certain element of my outfit then I feel like I can tackle the day. As much as I am aware that this is quite superficial, it’s something I want to explore. From bright red sock boots to getting rid of the very orange toned blonde, 2018 has been the year I’ve found my style and with it self love I’ve never known before.

Letting go of the rules…

‘I can’t wear that, I’m too fat’.

Trust me, I’ve gotten tired of saying those words- usually standing next to something I adore. Over the past few weeks I’ve spent a lot of time wondering what my style would be like if I stopped playing by he rules. In truth, I think I’d be so much happier.

The start.

I recently followed in the tracks of Lydia Elise Mullen and started to build my stack. My helix and second wholes are one of my favourite things I have ever purchased. Everytime I see that simmering gold training stud in the mirror I’m reminded that I’m slowly edging toward the person I want to be (vomits profusely). A more confident, happier person who is taking steps to build a wardrobe she adores.

This skirt is something I wouldn’t have felt comfortable wearing a few months ago. This pink baby is £13 from Primark and perfect for the Christmas season. Also please mind the radiator.

New additions.

I recently bought a camo jacket from Primark, and honestly it could be one of the best purchases I have ever bought. Every time I throw it over a very basic outfit I feel so much more myself. As a woman who loves all things neutral having pieces like my camo jacket Really allow me to express my personality through clothing. When i wear prices such as this I feel so much more comfortable in my own skin, because I am being myself.

My love of neutrals is never going to die, intact, my heart will always be drawn to a black, white or beige polo. However my confidence does grown when I find something I adore that allows me to stand it from the crowd – even if it’s just a little.

Why Now?

Maybe the change in attitude is because of my recent birthday, or maybe, it’s down to being bored with feeling completely worthless. Looking for something to bring me out of my shell and grab life by the balls was never going to be easy for some one with the outlook on life that I do. So if I can find the confidence from a bold lip, a camo jacket or even my very much well loved red bag, then you can bet that I’m going to be rocking them to e high heavens.

From now on?

*sings in the voice of Hugh Jackman*

Letting go of the ‘classic’ rules has allowed me to share my own. The ‘rules’ are things I will be telling myself when I’m about to buy something I wouldn’t usually.

When in doubt, it’s one for a red lip– this winter intend on finding my red lip. Especially for those moments when you feel like you need an extra boost. Red lips are apparently * a rest confidence boost and every now and then don’t we all need one.

Say yes. Now this is an easy one:

  • If I love it.
  • Can afford it.
  • And think I’ll wear it more than 5 times in a month.
  • I’m buying it
  • Treat myself. Currently as I write this there is an absolutely stunning pair of celestial inspired earrings from Thomas Sabo. I’ve had I’m beady eyes on them ever since I saw Victoria from In the Frow, wear them in August. They’ve very beautiful (but quite expensive) earrings are something I just can’t stop thinking about them. Maybe they could be my birthday present to me?
  • What ever happens, I’m so excited to develop my style in a way that expresses my personality. I’ve always been a girl to blend into the background, only coming into the forefront when my sarcastic comments and eye rolls make some one giggle. I can’t wait to develop my style in a way that makes me feel more comfortable in my own skin. Here’s to the next few months and purchases… I’m sure you’ll find out about them in a blog post or two.
  • Always,
  • Em x
  • A reintroduction to Em Rambles.

    Hello you lovely bunch.

    After a delve into the Rambles archive I realised that I haven’t really introduced myself or my venture into blogging. I haven’t always been Em Rambles but I have always held the same values. Initially (when Look was my bible) I was heavily focused on fashion. However right you’d be hard up to find any clothing items within my think pieces. 2018 has been a year in which my content has changed but I’ve always been the same slightly odd, emotional Em.

    Education.

    Let’s get the boring stuff out of the way.

    I have always had a huge love of fashion, I love the confidence a garment gives a woman. Adding a beloved blazer, a killer pair of heels or even a cheeky bit of lingerie, really allows a women, to feel confident in her own skin. So once I got my GCSE’s out of the way I went straight to college to study fashion. And honestly, I was just awful. My heart was in the right place but I just didn’t have the passion for pattern cutting others in my class did. Adding to the fact I have no spacial awareness and could be classed as a hazard to society. Over time I realised it was best to back away from the scissors after completing my course.

    After struggling my way through college I some how managed to get the grades I needed to go to uni. In 2014, graduated with a 2:1 from the University of Northampton. AGAIN, I found that I was probably not cut out for the demanding environment of Fashion Marketing. So after working as a temp for a few years I now work in admin, and honestly I’m pretty happy about it.

    Blogging.

    I will never take my time at university for granted purely because my course leader pushed me (and other in my course) to blog. Blogging has given me so much confidence and even allowed me to have something that I was able to throw myself into when my personal life was nose diving.

    I now own my site and have written some blogs posts I am really proud off. Without sounding too cheesey I have no idea where my blog will take me- or even if it will take me any where at all, but it makes me feel more myself than anything else in my life. And I will forever be great full to Sally for introducing me to the blogosphere.

    Nerding it out.

    I LOVE all things slightly nerdy: marvel, sic-fi dramas and of course a slight bit of magic (watch this space). From comics to film franchises and to wands i love anything that is remotely classed as ‘nerdy’. I may not be academic but i can argue who was the best hobbit like a good one.

    The future

    In the next few months I have some amazing opportunities I can’t wait to share with you. My next major change to my blog is a move from lifestyle content to mental health. I believe that some time every one needs a helping hand, and if I the blogs I create can help anyone- then for me it’s worthwhile.

    2018 has been a year that brought massive changes. As I sit and write this post I can’t wait to diversify my content and focus my blog.

    Here’s to an amazing blogmas and an exciting 2019!

    An Interview with Em Lemon.

    Throughout the few years I have been blogging I have been lucky enough to meet some truly incredible women. From working mothers who are looking for extra income, to women with truly amazing sense of self. Blogging has not only opened doors for me personally but it has allowed friendships I hold dear to bloom.

    None more so than this amazing young woman. Emma Lemon, is some one who believes in others more than she believes in herself, some one who’s creativity knows no bounds and if she believed in the term, would be the pinnacle of the term girl boss. For the past year I have been lucky to speak to this incredibly creative woman almost daily, from working with her on blog logos, to bombarding her for more information about the cutest staffy’s in the world. If blogging gives me nothing else, I am so incredibly honoured to know Emma Lemon.

    Now, before I get all mushy, let me introduce you to my blogging hero.

    The one and only Typegal, Emma Lemon…

    With 2018 being the year Em has really grabbed life by the horns and hit the ground running. Nothing has shown this more so than her return to blogging. From her 30 thins post to her creativity with ebbs through each and every post. Em really has found her own way to do things. And I for one can’t wait for her to continue to shatter every glass ceiling which ever has the stupidity to hold her back.

    Me: You’ve recently turned the big 3-0, relaunched your blog AND got your ‘dream job’ as a graphic designer. (Is there anything you can’t do?) what’s your next thing to be ticked of your 30 things list?

    Em: ‘Oh yes, finally starting to get my sh*t together, bout time really isn’t it haha! Ideally I’d like it to be paying off debts, but I reckon it’ll probably be sorting out my diet. I have so many digestion issues after suffering with gallstones, and honestly it really does come down to what you put in your body! ‘

    Back again… this time only better.

    After a short break from Em has recently found her love and passion for writing again. When this interview was conducted a mere few days after her first blog post she filled a huge Em shaped whole in the blogosphere. I couldn’t help but wonder if she has missed blogging as avid readers (me) have missed her and her truly original pieces.

    How are you feeling about your return to blogging? And do you have schedule in mind or posting when inspiration takes hold?

    ‘Amazing, I’m actually so happy and inspired and motivated. I’ve missed it so much, and I think this time round I’m not going to get too hung up on numbers and not being able to do what other people do. I need to realise I’m not in London, so picture perfect opportunities are not always available to me and I do actually work a full time job/have other commitments, so I can’t be on Instagram all day long. I’d like to get back into posting Wednesdays and Sundays, but I’m easing myself in and not beating myself up if I don’t manage to post on time. ‘

    Ditching numbers and embracing the poorer blogging has, Em has now published a few more post, my personal favourite is ‘ Is it time to ditch the Girl Boss Term’. With uniquely refreshing content as an avid reader is so happy this incredible blogger is not only back, but back to her full potential.

    Blogging hero’s.

    As bloggers we always hold certain writers dear. With many providing inspiration at times when we cant find the words to fill pages. For me personally Em is one of my inspirations. When I cant find the words, the motivation or even an idea, I look to Em.

    Both Em and I have often spoken about how Lydia Elise Millen has been a huge factor when it comes to out love of blogging. Her like-ability and love of Chanel are show no bounds. With so many amazing bloggers a simple google search away I asked about the other blogs which inspires Em.

    Speaking of blogging, we both know Lydia Elise Millen is goals, but do you have any With 2018 being the year Em has really grabbed life by the horns and hit the ground running. Nothing has shown this more so than her return to blogging. From her 30 thins post to her creativity with ebbs through each and every post- Em really has found her own way to do things. And I for one can’t wait for her to continue to shatter every glass ceiling which ever has the stupidity to hold her back.

    ‘Speaking of blogging, we both know Lydia Elise Millen is goals, but do you have any other blogging hero’s who inspire you?’

    ‘There are so many amazing bloggers, and I find inspiration in all of them. I obviously love the big well known bloggers just as much as anyone else does, but one thing I want to try and change is the whole ‘worshipping’ thing we have going on. At the moment I’m trying to shy away from reading/following the same people I always have, and try to find people who maybe aren’t as well known but create amazing content!

    That being said, I love Vix, Em Sheldon and Chloe Plumstead! ‘

    Fitness friend or foe?

    2018 has been a monumental year for Em, but nothing has been more amazing than her finding a love of fitness. Showing her enthusiasm of a good work out on instagram and some how still looking like a post work out goddess. I wanted to know her secret to the ‘healthy work out glow’ rather than sweaty red pancake.

    Over the past few months you’ve really focused on your health and fitness, in fact, you’ve shared a lot of fitness inspo on instagram, is this something you are going to share with ink art love and your blog?

    ‘Well thank you for noticing! I must admit I haven’t been to them gym in at least a month (holiday and life has been too much!) I am trying to incorporate a healthier diet, that is easy to manage. I’ve been looking into things I specifically need for my body, such as fibre – I need WAY more than the average person for my insides to work properly. I absolutely love the gym now, I only do weights – purely because I want to build muscle, and I hate cardio. I’m bottom heavy so I’m just trying to shape how I want to look by using what I’ve been naturally given, so except lots of leg/booty stuff. I DO want to share workout vids/tips and recipes, from a beginners POV. ‘

    Future of Emma Lemon.

    Over the past few years Em been using her creative skills for all things hand lettering. A combination of her love for hand lettering and graphic design allowed her to focus on her then company Ink, Art, Love (now Typegal). From working on blog headers to displaying her stunning artistic eye on Instagram, I wanted to know what her artistic eye was going and if she had any plans to delve into homeware.

    Since I’ve just mentioned your beautiful, graphics and calligraphy company, Ink Art Love, are you wanting to expand the brand, introduce new merchandise or graphics?

    *cough* you should *cough*.

    ‘I am! I’ve used my time off over the summer to really think about what it is I want to do with it. Right now, I think I’m going to invest my time into creating beautiful paper goods. My love of creating with paper and ink is what started it all, so I’m going to go back to that! Except prints, stationery and more custom services. A MASSIVE one I want to crack with my little lettering business is to do some sign writing for somewhere like Grind in London! ONE DAY! I’m also working on a new project for bloggers, as I feel like it’s something I can contribute my knowledge too. While I want to provide services, I also want to give back to the community in any way I can, so I’m hoping to do that with blogkit.co’

    Taking time to asses what she wanted her online world to be was monumental for Em, her confidence and personality seems to have shone and shown how important she is to so many. However, change didn’t stop at Em’s online world but her real life one too.

    In your new 30 things post you’ve given yourself a long list of things you have already ticked off and are yet to tick off, are you excited for what’s to come? And are there any goals you are keeping to yourself?

    ‘I’m so excited for what’s to come. A year on from being in an AWFUL relationship, that held me back (or held me in the house so he knew where I was at all times) I’m in such a different position. I’m happier, I’m working in a job that I want, I have an amazing boyfriend who encourages me rather than bringing me down and I’m finally working on my goals! There’s only one, and that’s just to do with myself and my behaviour/wellbeing. Being mistreated over the years by men, and people who I used to call my friends has done a lot of damage that I know needs to be repaired. So every day I am actively working on that, by being kind to others and kind to myself. ‘

    From a year, which most certainly deserves to stay in the past, the a bright bold future. 2018 has be a year of change for Em. As a blogger, a friend and some one who is a truly admiring reader, I am so proud of how far she’s come. *holds back drunken sobs*

    With the written word being as close to Em’s heart as she is in mine I couldn’t help but wonder what quote inspired her to change her live and create the amazing adventures which are coming her way.

    And lastly, (I promise not to keep you here forever) is there any quote you hold close to your heart? If so what is it?

    ‘There’s a quote I found ages ago on Pinterest (gotta love spending all day aimlessly scrolling through it haha) by someone called Max Lucado. I don’t know much about him, but it was on a Pinterest graphic and it has always stuck with me.

    “When you are in the final days of your life, what will you want?”

    Will you hug that college degree in the walnut frame? Will you ask to be carried to the garage so you can sit in your car? Will you find comfort in rereading your financial statement? Of course not. What will matter then will be people. If relationships will matter most then, shouldn’t they matter most now?”

    We are always so hung up on what we have, when all that really matters is the people in your life. Bit deep, soz haha!’

    For me personally Em is a constant source of hope, after being in a similar situations, she shows that there is a light at the end of every tunnel, even if at the time it feels like there’s no hope. For that reason alone I knew she had to be the first person I asked to take part in ‘An interview with…’.

    Thank you so much Em. Not only for being the first of incredible women within this series but for being a constant source of help, motivation and friendship.

    Always love.

    Em x

    Just a little disclaimer* All images used in this post are owned by Emma Lemon. She has all rights and any copyright infringement will be dealt with accordingly.

    On a lighter not I am so sorry about the pixilated images this is due to the software blurring the images themselves.

    Merry Christmas!

    It’s December and that means only one thing! Blogmas or at least my own version of Blogmas. This year I wanted to write my own version of Blogmas, one that gives you lovely readers enough content but also allows me to not work constantly for the next 31 days.

    I love Christmas and would love to enjoy both the festive season and blogging. Blogmas puts so much pressure on those of us who love the festive season. As some one who’s blogged for years I feel like I can safely say by the end of Blogmas most bloggers never want to hear the word Blogmas for at least another 11 months.

    SO, in the hopes of saving my own sanity I have wrote myself a set of rules which will hopefully allow me to contribute to Blogmas in my own way.

    1, Content doesn’t have to be festive.

    Throughout the next month some of my content isn’t festive, infact its so removed from Christmas its unreal- and that’s perfectly okay. Christmas puts pressure on everyone and sometimes us mere mortals need to have a minute without a mince pie or festive joy.

    The festive season is a difficult one, so having a break from festivities is a must for not only me but for others too.

    2, Monday to Friday, only.

    Over the past few years I have realised that I am in no way organised to contribute daily to Blogmas. As much as I adore writing I simply run out of inspiration come December 27th. Most poeple read content at weekend so uploading 7 post in a week can be excessive and some readers may miss a great post you’ve worked your arse off on.

    Choosing to limit my Blogmas content came with a very heavy heart, if I’m totally honest I feel like I have let my self down a little, but for the sake of my mental health I have come to realise working full time and blogging daily is just too much for me right now.

    3, ITS MY BLOGMAS.

    As a rule blogmas runs form the 1st December to the 31st – that is a lot of content. I applaud any one who attempts to do this but for me personally, I don’t think its a viable option. With that being said, this is my blogmas, on my blog so i felt that it was about time i rewrote the rules.

    I hope you understand and are ready for a few exciting introductions (including my monthly bar review to name one). Are you ready?

    I don’t think I am,