Confidence boosting tips- from someone with no confidence.

We all have days where we don’t feel ‘our best self’- in fact many of us don’t even know what that is. With summer nearly over and many of us feeling as grim as the weather. I thought, I’d share a few tips on how to give yourself a quick confidence boost- and yes, it is mainly a reminder to myself.

Good Breakfast and a coffee.

Seriously, how could you live without this tip, right? Well hear me out.

A ‘good’ breakfast isn’t the full fat English breakfast we all know and love. Its focusing on giving you the best start to your day. A bowl of porridge with wads of fruit or some spiced Avo on toast are perfect kick starts to a day.

Whether we want to admit it or not, fruit and veg are key to making our bodies feel better. When our bodies feel, we generally feel better. Team with a ‘not so healthy- but lovely’ frothy coffee and your set for whatever the world throws at you- until the caffeine wears off.


Seriously, theirs something to be said about wearing Ann Summers best under you day to day clothes. It’s kind of like keeping a naughty secret from the world. For a quick boost in confidence, get your swanky knickers on and tackle the day.

Motivational Quotes

WHO DOESN’T LOVE A MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE.  I swear every man woman and child have a folder saved to their phone ready to whip out a quote aimed at the people who piss them off that day, right?

All jokes aside motivational quotes really do motivate us, shock! Making anyone who reads them smile and reflect on a little segment of their lives. Smiling is good for the soul. A good motivational quote will, help push you when you need to force yourself into action. So I suggest if you don’t have a folder of motivational quotes. Get one.

In the spirit of motivational quotes, I thought I would share mine.

‘ Happiness, can be found in the darkest times, if one only remembers to turn on the light’. Albus Dumbledore.

At times we all don’t feel like putting our socks on, never mind getting on with our lives. Introducing a little bit of confidence through a pair of knickers or a quote or two can only be a good thing. So go on, give yourself a bit of a boost.



Panic Attacks: The truth.

picture- my own.

I am going to be 120% honest, I have no idea where I am going with this post. Many of you out there will know I suffer with panic attacks. Unfortunately, I don’t see myself living without them. But I HAVE , found a few ways to combat, end or put off them. Ultimately, the end result always seems the same- me sat on/in a toilet, crying wanting the a hole to come and swallow me up.

When all the dust has settled and the panic attack subsided, there is always a feeling of loss. Not loss in the sense of grief or misplacing a well-loved possession. Loss in the form of losing yourself. Weeks can pass and you simply don’t feel like you. Putting you knickers on in a morning, seems more daunting than a sky dive without a parachute.  This disconnected feeling really doesn’t leave. You don’t get a night off or a 5 minute commercial break, it lingers until you except that it won’t ever leave you.

But, it does.

Each panic attack varies, yes- it’s true. The length of time you feel like a glorified zombie is only personal to you; to that attack.

One morning, you will wake up and manage to put your wangers on the right way around, get dressed and boss that day like no other can. It just takes a little time. Remember, baby steps are still steps.

I can’t tell you how to deal with a panic attack. Hell, I can barely handle my own! But I can tell you what works for me and hope it helps you realize, just because it’s your struggle, you are most certainly not on your own.

Get out of the situation- if possible.

There has been no amount of times at work when I have had to escape to a toilet and ignore the world for 15 minutes to calm the f down. To be able just to combat that awful feeling of all you emotions attacking you like the Dothraki- just get out

Call someone.

We all have that one friend who we can call and physically not have to say a word to other than ‘Hi’. The one friend that can unintentionally natter on for an hour before even realizing you’re on the other line waiting to speak too. Call that friend, focus on their voice and their voice alone. Ignore everything else going on and just listen.

Sit down

Seriously, SIT DOWN. Stop pacing, walking, drifting- whatever you want to call it just bloody stop and give your feet a rest.

Have a cup of tea- no alcohol.

All jokes aside, in the prospects of getting out of the situation and just stopping what better excuse is there to make a brew? And tea is scientifically proven to calm you! Bonus.

I know, I’ve never met a decent alcoholic cup of tea either!


In the aftermath, let yourself feel whatever the hell you want to.

It’s built into use to shame ourselves for our feelings, but stopping the emotions brimming under the surface is arguable a reason for your anxiety to build up. Let your emotions out, if you angry be angry. If you want to cry, cry. It’s okay to feel whatever the hell you want too!

Remember, that having a panic attack is utterly BOLLOCKS shit.

I’m sorry I tried to put it a more PG rated way but it is simply that. Shit. From those moments when you mentally can’t stop your brain from working, to the physical ache that comes along for the ride- it’s all just shit.

Panic attacks come and go. A battle truly unique to us all, with the same common enemy. It’s not your fault. You are not wired wrong *repeat the two previous sentences*. Just remember you will beat a panic attack, the aftermath and the no doubt eventuality of it happening again. You will beat it and become stronger, even if you don’t feel it.


Do mistakes* make you a bad person?

FullSizeRender (40).jpgIf you haven’t guessed already, I am shit at life. I like to think that I handle all my fails with a certain level of grace. And that level of grace is about the same as a fly frantically hitting the window trying to get out of the kitchen.

What I am not afraid to say is that because of the fault’s I had in the past, heck, the faults I have now. In spite of all the crap, I’ve done and put my parents through, I am now a good person. Whether, some people want to believe it or not.

I could drone on, quoting sayings some Disney character or ramble on about how mistakes allow us to grow as a person. But, do they really? One ‘fail’ doesn’t mean we learn, what is right or wrong. Falling off the track time and time again and getting back up, shows a good person. Reflecting on those times and treating others with the respect they deserve is a utterly epic *insert amazing emoji, here* person.

With so many people judging our abilities, morals and achievements through social media- don’t lie we all stalk and judge. Has our generation, completely missed the memo that is all fake? A good person simply doesn’t come from a great following, but their actions. And what they do inspire of the ‘iffy’ moments we all have! Yes, I am looking at you teenage years.

Isn’t it time we stop throwing mistakes of the past at people who are constantly supporting and showing kindness in the present? If their past mistakes are harming you in any way shape or form, block them. Ignore them, completely take them out of the equation- you’ll feel better for it.

I have been judged by mistakes in the past, hell, I’VE judged me for my mistakes in the past. The mistakes you make at your lowest do not and should not ever define who you are! What you are! Or what will become of your future. It’s time to grab life by the metaphorical balls, and do something you think you can’t.

You’ll thank yourself later.




A list of happiness

Now, I am not good at anything in particular, but I do excel in list making. Not necessarily completing them but the list will most definitely be on point.

Anyway, I am totally going of topic. It seems like everyone and their mother are having a little bit of a tough time at the moment. So I thought, it was about time someone shared a smile or two.

The first waft of coffee in the morning.

Whether you’re a caffeine fiend or just love the amazing aroma, the smell of coffee can make anyone smile. Ah, Dreamy.

A ‘good’ Netflix series.

You know the type, nothing to heavy- just a casual watch you can throw on and ignore while you scroll through twitter.

A Christmas count down!

We all need this in our lives. No if buts or maybes. ‘Cause seriously who doesn’t love Christmas!

P.S Sleeps lite, has bells. Winning.

Wine, moaning and laughing with the girls.

Is there any better therapy ? It’s actually cheaper than most councilors too!

Thoughts of old MSN conversations.

Cause its KL *toes curl at how awful my spelling used to be*.


Seriously, do I need to explain?

A log fire.

Seriously, what about wrapped up in a little chalet with a burning log fire doesn’t make you happy? Yes, I am aware its slightly unrealistic, but a girl can’t quit her day dream.

All, the blankets.

Mermaid blankets, fluffy blankets, any old blanket- comfort is needed, always.

Finding a bargain top in Primark

And subsequently shouting ‘It’s FROM PRIMARK’ when anyone asks about this epic find.

Lush- literally all, the Lush Bath Bombs in the land.

I have no idea what magic they put in these amazing balls of pleasure. But there is something to be said about lounging in a bath with your favorite bath bomb. Even the thought of it just makes me go ‘Ahh’.

Harry Potter

Proud Hufflepuff, right here. Harry potter is home to so many around the world, both muggle and wizard folk, alike. Falling in love with the story over and over again, instantly gives you that warm fuzzy feeling and a big cheesy grin.

Yes, this list is a little bit crap, but can you honestly say thinking about Ron Wesley’s first kiss, wrapped up underneath a blanket, sat next to a roaring log fire, wouldn’t make you smile?

Mischief managed!

What to expect from this little blog!

Sometimes, just sometimes I am so flawed by the blogging community. The support I have seen and received ALWAYS out ways the trolls- let’s face it, trolls are only key board warriors anyway. I absolutely adore our community, it has its flaws but, seriously, who doesn’t?

As I sit writing this post, with mocha and occasionally dreaming about my holiday, I can’t help but think how far I have come. Just a tweet away there are men and women who inspire me to go on in my best moments, but there are also so many others that support me at my weakest. All I can say is thank you, and I’m sure you know who you are.

After reading Lydia Millen’s Code of Conduct post, I realized that my old content was a little forced. With many post’s trying to ‘fit’ the idea of a life style blogger – when there isn’t one. Mainly due to listening to insecurities rambling on at 2 in the morning, my content changed. And that is something I intend to rectify. We all don’t have to fit into one blogger bIMG_2581.JPGox- something I think we all should remember.



First and foremost, I want this blog to be somewhere I want to go back to when things get too much- my blog is for me as much as anyone else(slightly selfish I know). Where I can remind myself of a time what I felt like life got a little too much and remind myself of the demons I met and obliterated*insert amazing wonder woman feeling here*.

I am relatable. I am the girl who, blows out a candle and miraculously sets her hair on fire- we all know one. We have all felt alone; from mental health to embarrassing yourself on a date- at some point in our lives we have all had the awful feeling of feeling alien in a world we are desperate to belong too. I’d love for this space to help others feel a little less like an outsider and more empowered.

Positivity and motivation

Hopefully, this little space of mine will be positive. No trolls, bullies or anything else life wants to throw at us is allowed (unless used for motivating). Any comment’s I see to be anything other than constructive will be deleted.

Motivation is incredibly important. As I grow older my motivation changes, as a teen I was driven by money but now, I just want to be comfortable with my life. Of course there will be motivational blogs, I feel like sometimes we all need someone to kick us up the arse, but I want my post to empower you; you can honestly do anything you set your mind too.


I have literally no idea where life will take me and I am not sure I want it too either. I learn from every mistake, from every failure and challenge. After spending years, ‘planning’ my life, I am so looking forward to the challenges that come along. And of course taking you guys along for, what I am sure will be a bumpy ride.

Here’s to hitting a few more Bumps!