Category: Lifestyle

Fighting Imposter Syndrome

Lifestyle July 24, 2019

Imposter syndrome seems to be dotted about blog posts like there’s no tomorrow, but what is it? Well I thought I’d ask the know it all in my phone, Siri, yes, Siri. And the queen she is stated.

Imposter syndrome is a psychological patter in which people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent often internalised fear of being exposed as a fraud.

In essence it’s that little voice in the back of your mind telling you, you don’t deserve anything good to happen in your life. Firing questions around such as, Do I deserve to be here? Am I good enough for this? Why am I doing this when so many others can do it a million times better?

Some would probably argue that it’s a lack confidence that makes you question your worth, but I’d argue the opposite. Many people *cough* me*cough*, know who they are and are reasonably comfortable with it, but Imposter Syndrome is entirely different.

The Day to Day.

For people like me, Imposter Syndrome was simply a myth. We coped with feeling so out of place when anything reasonably good happened to us. There was always something in the back of our minds that stopped us from believing that are achievements were, well, ours and not just a fluke. From little things like paying bills to jumping to the front of a queue so many people(i.e. me, literally me) constantly feel like they just don’t deserve any bit of luck.

When I first got my new job (well not new, I’ve been there over a year) I thought that some one else should have got the role, that I wasn’t good enough to be there- and it showed. I just didn’t believe I was worth anything. After reading In the Frow’s post about Imposter Syndrome, I finally new that I wasn’t the only person questioning their achievements.

Turning down the volume.

It’s all too easy to let those voices win: to let the doubts surrounding your mind stop you from achieving anything. When you seem to be finding your way a little more than usual, there’s always something holding you back.

Sometimes, when your doubts seem to be screaming at you- it’s so difficult to try and turn down the volume. Whilst there are so many ways you can take yourself away and find your focus, Every now and again you need to find something that will just tell that unwanted little fucking voice to back off. Whether it’s a glass of wine, a bath or just a walk around the block, finding your own way to turn down the volume is bloody needed.

My tips and Tricks.

1. Take a walk.

Quite literally leave the situation and take a walk. Being stuck in something where you feel like you’re drowning in self doubt isn’t going to do you any favours. In fact it will probably mean you will fuck it up a million times over.

2. Stay away from the booze.

Now we all know, I love my Gin, but when I feel the Imposter in my brain shouting all odds around like the local drunk, I know it’s times to step away from the Hendricks. If I was to look back on all my less than favourable (yes, there the words I’m going with) times in my life, it’s been when I’ve grabbed a few drinks when I thought I didn’t belong to my own life.

Stepping away from the booze for a few days is key if you want to keep motivated, and prove your worth not only to others but to yourself too.

3. Celebrate!

I’ve only recently started to champion myself when something actually goes my way. When YOU’VE achieved something, YOU deserve to celebrate it. Not your friend, not your family, not those mates that sarcastically comment on your Facebook update, YOU because you worked your fucking arse off to achieve it.

So whether it’s a long bath, a new pair of shoes or a good giggle with the girls, celebrate your accomplishments, because it feels incredible when you do.

Imposter Syndrome used to be a myth: something that no one acknowledged existed out side of there own head, but it’s something EVERYONE has or will suffer with. Whether your mental health has suffered over the years is regardless, Imposter syndrome and the effects it has on your life is endless. Letting the doubts in your head effect your life is easy, it would be stupid of me to tell you otherwise but at times we all let those voices run ragged. Just know you aren’t on you’re own, and know that whatever you think you don’t deserve YOU DO.

Celebrate yourself- there’s only one of you.

Em x

Few Faves

Lifestyle July 22, 2019

If i am totally honest with you, I’ve tried to start this post at least 5 times, but i always seem to struggle writing something that wasn’t one sided. Writing favourites posts in hindsight should be much easier than what they are. You are literally writing about all the things your loving that month- but writing them in a way you don’t sound like a complete stuck up knob is something else.

So I thought I’d give this little edit a try. Writing about alll the things I love from lifestyle, beauty and music to holidays or trips I take. A few faves is something that I hope sticks. And I hope you do too!

Now, let’s get started.

My Favourite Murder

After being introduced to the mega murder podcast(in the best possible way), after watching a Katie Snooks, vlog last year. If you are unfamiliar or just as nosey as I am, I’ll let you know what my excitement is all about. My favourite murder is a podcast, starring Georgia Hardstark and Karen Kilgaraff, where the two true crime lovers speak openly (and bloody hilariously-excuse the pun) about Murder’s throughout the years.

From Jack the Ripper to the ‘I survived ‘ tales, the two incredible, pod cast hosts speak with compassion and homily- whilst cracking more jokes than your pissed up uncle and Christmas.

New Kicks.

(Am i cool enough to say kicks? Probably not.)

I’ve never been the kind of girl to wear trainers, I’m not athletic and I previous ideas of comfort were pyjamas. That was until I started wanting leave he house without the threat of blisters. So after last months pay day I marched into my local JD sport and bought these nude puma kicks. I love them!

Weather scruffy or clean I can comfortably throw on these babes, with most things. For the ultimate go anywhere in comfort style, I’d throw these babies on with a white shirt and jeans.

PSA: they have a little bit of a platform- perfect if you’re a short arse like me!

Estée Lauder Day wear

My daily go too, Ester Lauder Day Wear, is my morning savour! After getting up at 4.45am I just can’t be bothered to go full force with make up. This product is simply amazing! The light texture doesn’t provide much coverage but it does give your skin colour. After initially coming out of he tube a full grey colour, the cream slowly changes colour to bronze up your natural skin tone.

Due to this product not being a foundation, the overall texture is extremely light and nourishing for your skin. However, just a warning, if you use any more than a pea sized amount then you will more than likely look as orange as David Dickenson and be an oily mess by the time you leave house. Now, with a high end brand, you’d expect the price to be up there and if I’m honest, just thinking about forming over £36.00 for one product hurts m bank balance- but what I will say, is the the amount of product you get is bloody amazing. I bought this product About 6 weeks ago and I’ve barely used a quarter of it(and I use it at least 5 days a week.

So if your looking for an easy to throw on tinted moisturiser for a bank breaking cost, then this product is for you!

Lewis Capaldi Album

Divinely uninspired to a hellish extent, could be one of the best albums I have ever listened too. Being up there with albums such as Adele’s 19 and pretty much any song sung by Sam Smith, Lewis Capaldi has made an album that I believe everyone needs in there life. Vinyl, iTunes, Cassettes if you’re old school, where ever you get your Capaldi fix – get it.

One of my favourite songs on the Album is One. In hindsight the song is about the ultimate love story starting from the ultimate heartbreak but it always seems to make me think of the girls.

The lyric…….

Reminds me of all the times they picked me up after a bad date or a bad relationship ended. As much as that wasn’t the intention of the song, the meaning behind it makes me listen to it when I need to be reminded the people that have always been there for me, when times have been more than a little rough.

Clarins Lip Oil- 01 Honey.

If you’ve read my recent post, Bad Skin Diaries, then you will know trust my skin hS been in dire need of help- and my lips were no exception. With the change in season and my skin flare up my lips were swollen and sore, even smiling made me reach for the Panadol! It wasn’t until i strolled up to the Clarins counter and was introduced to this little lip saver.

Clarins Comfort Lip Oil, £18, May be on the pricey side for what can only be described as an Uber luxourious lip balm- but trust me when I say, it is worth every penny. In days my lips were much more comfortable and in just a week you could see my lips visibly start to heal. And a month later? My lips are fully healed and nourished- and I could not be happier!

Life Update| Making time for myself & the changes I’m making.

Lifestyle July 16, 2019

Hello my little loves,

I’ve been having a little look through my past blog posts and I realised it’s been a while since I’ve updated you on the comings and goings of well, me. Life’s definitely been a little lac lustre for me recently; I’ve just felt unsure of almost everything in my life. Whilst I haven’t really anything to worry about I’ve felt myself worrying over nothing.

As ridiculous as it seems I haven’t wanted to update you because I haven’t felt like myself but in the grand scheme of it all, I’m feeling much better in myself. Over the past few weeks I’ve started spending more time on me, giving myself time away from my phone and just letting me be, has done wonders. So, I thought I’d share the things I’m trying out with you.

Making Time for Myself

In the past few months I’ve just not felt myself. In my recent post I spoke about the changes I wanted to make in my life, a lot of them linked back to simply making more time for myself.

I find it so easy to build up others and rip myself apart. Blogging, reading and even just sitting with a brew watching the birds in the back garden (yes, I’m a 87 year old n a 26 year olds body). Taking more time to do the things I love has fast become a priority for me. After a bad day at work, or even when I just feel a little overwhelmed, I give myself some time- and hopefully it will reignite some passions of mine.

I’m actually blonder in real life. I blame my poor selfie skills

Hello Blonde?

Okay, I may not be Barbie blonde but I’ve been toying with the idea of having my Balayage put back through my hair for a little while. And like a lot of my life I just didn’t make it a priority. Whilst my hair seems to have grown like Rapunzel’s I just don’t think my natural colour suits who I am.

Adding a few highlights is incredibly superficial but it’s something that makes me feel a little more myself. So, I thought I’d bring it back.

Finding a New Challenge

I think the majority of my problems are that I’m stuck in a rut with no idea to get out of it. Finding something I can really sink my teeth into is kind of a must for me. By Nature, I love to have a challenge but I’m quite lazy. One side of my brain tells me to plan exciting adventurous and pursue blogging, but the other side is telling me to go take a nap. It’s a constant struggle with motivation and procrastination.

Anyway, I’ve been looking to find something to get me out of my rut. So if you have any ideas, leave me a comment below, because I’m purely at a loss when it comes to leaving my comport zone.

Creating my Own Space

For the year or so I’ve been wanting to create a space I can live and work in. Being pretty stretched for space, creating a motivating yet relaxing space has proven quite difficult. If you’ve been following me on Instagram, you might know I’ve been spending some time decorating my room.

Switching up my dated bright pink walls, to a clean white open space. Contrasting with a bright but beautiful palm print wall paper, the space has instantly been updated. In a few weeks I’m hoping to find small desk to give me somewhere to work: my bed is just not working out anymorewho’d have known.

Changing my space has been pretty easy but so motivating. In just a few weeks I’ve majorly upped my content- winning!

And there you have it. All the things I’m attempting to change. I know a lot of these things won’t happen and I may feel like crap in a few days but at least I’m trying.

Forever, hopefully deluded.

Em

x

*Disclaimer-Nothing in this post was given as a gift or at a discount. I wasn’t paid for anything shown in this post.

No hyperlinks have been given throughout this post as all items have been sold out or have been discontinued*

Top 5 Clarins Products.

Lifestyle July 13, 2019

Hey babes,

Sorry I missed last weeks upload but this post seemed to take me a lot longer than I thought it would to write. If you have been around over the past few weeks you will know that a few skin issues have made me completely change my beauty routine ( if you can call it that). After ditching the entirety of my make up bag, I’ve been slowly adding skin friendly products to my day to day face.

Clarins, has been such an amazing brand to find when my skin needed a lot of help. In the past 4 months an obsession with Clarins has developed and I think I’ve grown quite the pricey collection. Of course, I am sure that there’s much cheaper alternatives out there but since I’ve started using Clarins my skin has smoothed out and changed completely.

Any way, I digress, with my much needed switch up in beauty products I thought I’d write up my five favourite Clarins products.

SOS primer

I’ve never really been a primer lover, they never seem to work with my dry-oily skin. With my recent skin issues I decided it was time to give primers one last chance- and I’m so happy I did. Unlike, some other primers I’ve used,the SOS primer, is light enough that it doesn’t leave any clumpy residue and doesn’t slide off your face at the slightest bit of sweat. Perfect for oily girls like me!

The texture itself is pretty light and easy to apply. With a shimmer running through the product it would be easy to assume that it could feel gritty when applying, but you’d be wrong. Clarins SOS Primer, is smooth and velvety, in comparison to L’Oreals Lumi Magique primer, the SOS primer leaves your skin looking smooth, and dewy.

Clarins Bronzing Compact

By nature I’m pretty pale, in fact, there’s no pretty, I’m paler than milk. Bronzer is something I use daily to stop me looking like a boiled egg. Applying this bronzer n my temples, cheeks and below my chin, just seems to make me look so much healthier.

I’ve always been drawn to Clarins bronzers, purely because they are simply beautiful. Each summer Clarins releases limited addition bronzers and there packaging is simply beautiful. However, it’s not just the packaging that’s beautiful, this light bronzer gives you the summer bronze. Clarins Bronzing Compact, is s buildable, but doesn’t leave you looking like a tangerine. With hints of litter through out the compact, it just adds something to your skin. The compact uses a combination of a bronzer, a pink powder(which can be used as a blush) and a highlighter (which gives a stunning subtle highlight) allows a slight bit of dimension to your face.

Re-Charge Sleep Mask

In the past I’ve spoken about my skin, specifically the reaction I’ve suffered recently, so I’ve had my eye on this mask for a while. Being made from Shea butter, the sleep mask nourishes dry skin whilst diminishing any additional oils. What I love about this sleep mask is that you can use it as a mask or a night cream.

Applying a thick layer to the skin before bed, and rubbing into the skin until it’s tacky, allows to hydrate the skin when its in dyer need. Alternatively, use a pea size amount and rub into skin, to wake up to fresh, nourished skin.

Gentle Foaming Cleanser with Cottonseed

After using 2 very impressive ‘travel’ sized facial washes, i fully intend n buying the full size.

This foaming face wash applies so easy to the skin, attaching it self to grit, make up and other skin nasties, with minimal effort. Facial wash the rinses away with a few hand fulls of water and leaves your skin feeling fresh and clean.

Skin Illusion Foundation

This foundation is a game changer for girls with redness. The light foundation creates a luminous base, with coverage. My daily go to is Estée Lauders Day Day Wear, and in comparison the over all feel is quite similar. Both products are super light weight, and illuminating, so if you use Estée Lauder Day wear, and want a medium coverage foundation for days when your skin needs a little more help, Clarins, Skin Illusion foundation is for you.

Clarins as a brand has been amazing whilst I’ve been combating my skin issues. Whilst my excema was taking over my face, the introduction of a few Clarins products helped smoothed my skin and ultimately became integral in not only my skin care routine but my make up one too. Obviously, Clarins is on the pricier side of beauty, but for my skin, it’s worth every penny, for the first time in a over a year I am so comfortable going make up free.

My bank my hate me, but my skin is glowing.

Always,

A Clarins convert.

*disclaimer- this is not an add. I have never worked with Clarins. The links throughout are not affiliate link, I earn nothing from sharing my love of this brand.*

Re-Writing Resolutions

Lifestyle June 28, 2019

Almost 7 months into the year, I have completed or even worked on any of my new resolutions- and to be honest, I feel totally shit about it. In my head 2019 was the year I’d become this confident, driven woman who’d lost a tone of weight and was happy. And as I write this post, I’ve put on a lot of weight, I’m in debt and I have absolutely no drive what so ever.

Now, this doesn’t mean I’m not happy, in fact the only upside to 2019. My mental health and anxiety have been arguably the best it’s been since I was a spotty teen rocking rock ports and blasting out Pretty Green Eyes, through my Sony Ericsson- ahh the days.

Armed with an army of notebooks, I hope to re-write my January Resolutions-and find something I’m actually motivated to achieve.

Eat healthier.

Around this time last year, I became pescatarian, so far, I’ve enjoyed the majority of it. Usually I stick to vegetarian meals and only eat fish when I’m feeling run down and need a little more protein in my diet. At the start I had hopes of eating super healthy meals all day every day, but it didn’t work that way. Right now, I find myself reaching for my vegetarian alternatives and chips- literally potatoes are my best mate.

Since Christmas, I’ve put on quite a lot of weight and truthfully, I think that’s one of the major reasons I feel so awful about myself. After a good cry and a planning session with the mother, I’ve got my trusty meal plan and I hope, that eating healthier will decrease me waistline and improve my mindset*she said hopefully*.

Blog more.

Okay, okay, I know I’ve been lacking a bit when it comes to content. My Instagram could be described as waste land and my blog has been on the back burner for what seems to be forever.

Recently, I’ve been really missing blogging, even beauty blogposts (which probably take the most effort), I’ve found SO enjoyable to write. It’s safe to say that I’ve found my blogging stride again- just maybe without the schedule?

Now, not to be that blogger(spoiler* I’m going to be), but I have been working on a little something, something when I comes to my little blog. It’s no brand collab or exciting venture, but it’s a way of making my space feel more like mine.

This space is somewhere I want people to relate too, and I hope the next couple of things I have in the pipeline excite you as much as they do me.

Actually, save something.

Now, I know us brits don’t talk about money and what not, but WE all know we everyone has some form of it. The debt spoke about earlier, isn’t a huge. In fact, after my next pay day it will pretty much cease to exist. Thank god!

Something else that ceases to exist is my bloody savings. Have multiple savings accounts with 0.02 in, just makes me feel a little bit sick.

Every month I have these great ideas which will leave me in the black (if that’s right) but I never quite manage it, so let’s hope July is just a little bit easier for me and my bank balance.

Have a trip somewhere.

This might be counter- productive in regards to saving but I NEED A BREAK. Waking up in bedding that I don’t have to wash, to drink coffee till it comes out my ears and to see something outside the norm is something that my soul just needs to experience.

As a rule, I haven’t traveled anywhere other than Greece. In fact traveling makes me ridiculously anxious, but right now, I would happily jump on a plane. Whilst I may not have achieved anything this year, there’s been plenty of drama: so a nice relaxing break a fair way from my problems sounds bloody epic.

*starts planning*

Put myself first.

One of my great faults is taking on other people’s problems. I hate seeing those around me going through the ringer. There’s been so my instances that I’ve jumped into other people’s arguments and ended up being the one in the wrong. And because of this, I’m guilty of not taking enough time to myself.

By nature I’m pretty happy working day to day, so happy infact that I struggle to turn my brain off. Not only do I struggle to calm my brain but I tend to be hard on anything I do achieve. I constantly find myself wondering if I’m doing enough or if I’m even good enough in the first place. Combining this with being my friends and family’s equivalent to Jerry Springer, it’s safe to say I feel enough.

With questions running around my head, day in day out, I know taking time away from the worlds troubles is needed.

So with those, goals set, I hope the next six months will be much more productive? Or just filled with wine*shrugs*.

Em x

Lifestyle June 18, 2019

Hey guys,

In the past I have dabbled with favourites posts, and thought it would be a pretty cool to introduce it back to my blog. Sharing things that I love for that month isn’t only a great way to introduce new products to you guys but its a way I can remember what I keep reaching for.

My Few Faves post, will talk about all the things I love from lifestyle, beauty and music to holidays and trips I take. Mixing up my Faves post is something that I really wanted to do. With so many bloggers around, I’m aware things can be pretty same-y -so, introducing new areas to my favourites post may make it seem like I have a life and don’t sit in my room watching crap on YouTube. *shrugs*

Any way, I digress, this faves post will hopefully be up every 1-2 months. Being a creature of habit I don’t tend to find new things. So for me personally, I need to wait a little longer than most to share the things I keep reaching for.

Now, let’s get started.

My Favourite Murder

After being introduced to the mega murder podcast(in the best possible way), after watching a Katie Snooks, vlog last year- its safe to say i’ve become pretty obsessed. I have spent hours at work typing away listening to the prerfect mix of murder and Sarcasm.

But, before I start fangirling, I’ll let you know what my excitement is all about. My favourite murder is a podcast, starring Georgia Hardstark and Karen Kilgaraff, where the two true crime lovers speak openly (and bloody hilariously-excuse the pun) about Murder’s throughout the years.

From Jack the Ripper to the ‘I survived ‘ tales, the two incredible, podcast hosts speak with compassion and humilty- whilst cracking more jokes than your pissed up uncle at Christmas. In theory this podcast shouldn’t work, but the charasmetic host’s, some how have managed it. If you are a murderino, or just interested in true crime then this is the perfect posdcast for you.

Recently these two incredible women have realeased a book called ‘Stay Sexy and Don’t get murdered’– Which I will no doubt be purchasing on Pay day. This book discusses topics which have been seemingly untouched by the two creative genius’s. Speaking about situations such as depression, eating disorders and I’m sure some murders, in their own way. I can’t really speak about the book, as I haven’t read it but, I am almost sure it will be on a faves post very soon.

Estée Lauder Day wear

My daily go too, Ester Lauder Day Wear, is my morning savour! After getting up at 4.45am I just can’t be bothered to go full force with make up. Estée Lauder has out done themselves when it comes to this product. Initially the product comes out as a grey paste, which when rubbed into your skin oxidises, bronzing up your complexion. The product blends into skin with minimal effort- perfect for my 5 am brain!

I tend to use a brush to apply to my skin as it just makes my skin look so much more even than when i apply with my hands or a sponge. HOWEVER, recently, Alex, from icovertthee, used her hands with this product and her skin looked flawless- so you, do you.

Now, just a warning, if you use any more than a pea sized amount then you will more than likely look as orange as David Dickinson and be an oily mess by the time you leave house- so save your product and your skin and use only a tiny amount.

With a high end brand, you’d expect the price to be up there and if I’m honest, just thinking about forking over £43.00(but I’m sure I only paid £36) for one product hurts my bank balance- but what I will say, is the the amount of product you get is bloody amazing. I bought this product about 6 weeks ago and I’ve barely used a quarter of it(and I use it at least 5 days a week). So this product’s longevity is INSANE!

Estee Lauder Day wear, definitely comes with it’s pros and cons but I never want to be without this product, so it simply had to be in my faves post.

Lewis Capaldi

Divinely uninspired to a hellish extent, could be one of the best albums I have ever listened too. Being up there with albums such as Adele’s 19 and pretty much any song sung by Sam Smith, Lewis Capaldi has made an album that I believe everyone needs in there life. Vinyl, iTunes, Cassettes, if you’re old school, where ever you get your Capaldi fix – get it( or click the link to listen on Spotify).

One of my favourite songs on the Album is One. In hindsight the song is about the ultimate love story starting from the ultimate heartbreak but it always seems to make me think of the people that have always picked me up after I’ve fallen or failed miserably. From start to finish this song fills me with strength, unless I’m drunk and I cry like a baby for 3 minutes.

Drunken sobbing aside, I pretty much love the whole album, its been on repeat since I downloaded it. So, trust me when I say, the hype is real.

Clarins Lip Oil- 01 Honey.

If you’ve read my recent post, Bad Skin Diaries, then you will know trust my skin has been in dire need of help- and my lips were no exception. With the change in season and my skin flare up my lips were swollen and sore, even smiling made me reach for the Panadol! It wasn’t until I strolled up to the Clarins counter, that was introduced to this little lip saver.

Clarins Comfort Lip Oil, £ 19, May be on the pricey side for what can only be described as an Uber luxourious lip balm- but trust me when I say, it is worth every penny. Just days* after I lathered my lips in this super soft oil, my lips were much more comfortable and in just a week you could see my lips visibly start to heal. And a month later? My lips are fully healed and nourished- and I could not be happier!

So if you are suffering with your lips then this is the product for you.

* I applied this at least three times a day or when my lips had become sore.

And, there you have it, my first favourites post for what seems an age. I hope you enjoyed it.

Hope to see you soon,

Em x

**Disclaimer- images will be getting better, but as you know I am useless. Please bare with me*

An Interview With Alicia a la Mode

an interview with, Lifestyle June 11, 2019

Hello my loves,

I know its been a while but I promise I’m back with a metaphorical bang. As may of my long term readers will know each month I try and share a blogger I love, and this month is no exception. Today I have the pleasure of sharing an interview with the ultimate gal pal. Armed with positivity, motivational quotes and absolutely epic blog posts it’s no surprise that this little babe, has been sought after for more than a few exciting opportunities. Whether you’re looking for skincare reviews or a piece to kick start your day, Alicia is the blogger for you.

📸 owned by Alicia.

Alicia A La Mode was a way for Alicia to channel her thoughts and creativity. Each blog post Alicia creates is unbelievably empowering with quotes from inspiring men and women such as Beth Sandland and the legendary Ram Dass.

From humble Piczo beggings to a whole new realm of creativity, Alicia A La Mode, is the one place you can go and trust every word- or maybe, even find a new favourite motivational quote or two.

So, without further ado, let me introduce you to the wonderful Alicia.

Hi Alicia, thank you for taking part!

I can’t tell you how excited I am to have you here!

So my first question has to be what made you take the plunge and start blogging ?

Thank you for having me! So, What made me take the plunge? well, I don’t know if you remember Piczo websites? I had one in secondary school and that’s basically where I learnt all my html stuff haha! I would upload so many pictures of my friends and writing about our memories and I just loved it, I grew out of that by 15 and then in my early twenties I stumbled across beauty blogs and thought omg I would love to do this, I tried for a while, then gave up (its harder than it looks!) And then I met my boyfriend and he was so supportive and bought me a camera and told me I should give it a go and I’ve never looked back since! (thanks babe haha)

For me, personally, you and your content has change over the past year. Your content has become so much stronger and you’ve seemed to become so much more confident within your social media, is this something you’ve been trying to work on ? Or have do you think you’ve just come into your own with experience ?

Awww that is actually really sweet for you to notice. I feel like I’ve learnt a lot about myself and I’ve found my strengths in the past year or so and my confidence has just grown with the experience, it definitely helps when I get messages or engagement in response to something I’ve spoken about, it helps to know I’m on the right track and I’m making a small difference to other people.

You’ve recently spoken openly about suffering with eczema and the effect it had on your confidence. Was this something you were nervous about writing? Or something you felt like you needed to say?

I am actually really nervous about writing such personal post that I was currently dealing with but after writing about my health anxiety and smear test experience I had such amazing feedback from that I just kept thinking back to that feeling and use that as motivation. I really do get a buzz from helping other people out and I have always been quite a confident person, ever since I was a child I haven’t ever cared about other peoples opinions (about myself) but I felt like for the first time I was feeling that self conscious feeling due to my skin flaring up so I was looking for blog posts that had an eczema related post so I would feel better and less isolated but I only found a couple so I thought right I need to just talk about it myself, see if anybody else is suffering and maybe I can help someone in my situation.

Just one of the things I admire about you so much is your passion for blogging, each post just seems so individual to you. Every post you write seems to be so truthful, is this something you thinks important?

Yes 100%! I’ve been the same ever since I was young I think it’s so so important to be honest about everything . It doesn’t matter if it’s in real life or on my blog I would never recommend a product or speak about anything if I didn’t fully believe in it and I think it takes a lot of honesty to build trust in either a friend or a reader so I wouldn’t ever jeopardise that. I always write blog posts as if I’m talking to a friend so I hope my readers find it easy to relate.

📸 owned by Alicia

Throughout, all your blogs you use inspirational quotes from many influential women. Is encouraging women some thing you want to continue throughout your blog (because you do it bloody amazingly)?

Thank you so much! I do love encouraging women I think it’s important to teach young women about it too. I’m the friend everybody goes to for advice too, I’ve been told so many times that I should be a life coach haha! I just love helping people and giving them that extra bit of encouragement because it really does stick with you.

Speaking of admiration, Is there anyone you admire? And if so why does that person stand out to you?

My late nan, she was such huge inspiration to me and she was actually the one who told me I should be a writer one day haha! She was such a strong woman and so so caring but she wouldn’t ever let anybody take advantage of her, she knew her worth and that’s what I admired so much about her. I am a lot like her and everything I believe in is due to what she taught me.

In fact, your writing style as a whole is so incredibly positive, do you find it comes naturally or does writing make you feel more positive within your self?

It comes fairly natural to me, on the whole I’m quite positive. I do tend to overthink things and I got in a state with my eczema but overall I like to look at the bigger picture and concentrate on the more important stuff. I don’t see the point in holding grudges or talking negatively about people, I think it’s better to look for the positives in anything you can, otherwise you’ll become quite miserable. I love laughing and don’t like taking things too seriously so positivity always wins for me haha.

Just like you’re writing, your fashion is something so unique to you. Is fashion something you want to introduce more ?

I’m in too minds about this, I love fashion and I started this blog intending it to be a fashion blog but I just got so carried away with beauty in the end! I would like to feature more of my fashion because I have quite an eclectic taste, I don’t even think you could label it, I love cool casual clothing but then I love floaty boho outfits too, I don’t stick to one style at all I just see something I like and wear it, the only thing that puts me off is the guilt if I feel like I’m adding to the fast fashion industry so maybe I could post more ethical brands or a capsule wardrobe perhaps?

I’m one of your recent posts, you opened up a lot more about crystals. As some one who has carried rose quarts around with me for years, I can’t help but wonder has introducing crystals helped you find your ‘zen’?

Oh really? Me too! Haha. It definitely has helped me, my nan used to use them all the time so I kinda grew up already knowing what they were and she gave me my own one on my first day of school when I was around 5 years old? But I grew up and just didn’t give it much thought but after she passed, I was so grateful to be able to keep her crystals and then that sparked up my fascination with them again. I think they are so beautiful to look at regardless to whether people think they work or not I just find it reassuring to have something physical to hold to help me feel better if that makes sense? I have rose quartz all around my bath even rose quartz candle holders and it helps me relax sooooo much, I love it.

One of the many bloggers you’ve quoted throughout your work is Beth Sandland, is traveling something you would be interested in sharing on your blog ? Is it something you keep to yourself(we all need something)?

Oh I love Beth! She has definitely inspired me to travel more, I love that she is very realistic and transparent. I feel like if I go travelling, even in the UK I will definitely share it on my blog I’m a bit of an anxious traveller in all honesty, so I would have to bring you all on the journey too – as moral support!

You’ve accomplished so much with your blog recently. Blogosphere, Collabs and finally figuring a way to combine our past few months. What’s next for Alicia A La Mode?

Aw, Thank you! I would be over the moon if I had my own podcast, I would love to tackle taboo subjects with other women and I would love to write my own book or create my own wellness journal so I could physically help or teach women to love themselves or just to feel amazing. I really think self love is a priority and I would have it based around that.

And that empowering little answer is the end of this incredible interview with Alicia, I hope you’ll agree that she is more than an average blogger. Her enthusiasm is not only not only infectious but needed in such a dramatic blogosphere. Whether its sharing inspirational quotes from other incredible women, or speaking openly about topic that effect us all. Alicia A La Mode, is one of the most exciting up and coming bloggers for me, personally.

With the recent growth in her blog , I cant wait to see what the future holds for this amazing creator (and her ADORABLE pug, Louie). I hope you agree that, Alicia is proof that if you are true to yourself a glass ceilings are made to be broken.

Whether, it’s her introduction of cristals, or the encouragement she weaves in every post, it’s a little wonder why Alicia is one of my favourite bloggers. I couldn’t be more grateful for this amazing blogger to take part in this series.

I hope you feel the same.

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Always,

Em x

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