Slut Shamers: Back off.

After falling completely head over heels for the love island hype, I’ve recently been wondering about slut shaming. Personally I can’t quite believe that in this day and age the term slut is still used at all. Women are empowered, beautiful and successful, but when it comes to sex are we still meant to blush at the word orgasm?Millennial women are constantly told not to settle, to strive for the world and never apologise for it. Yet when it comes to sex are we meant to sit and wait man or woman of our dreams to come barrelling through the bed room door?

Are we meant to settle?

It has been statistically proven that having an active sex life relieves stress and can even extend your life. And I think most of us can agree that great sex is most definitely a stress reliever.With women striving for great careers, dream homes, travelling the world. Why are we expected to settle for a poor sex life? Both men and women judge, it’s one of the down sides to being human. Neither sex is golden when it comes to judgement. And that is exactly what slut shaming is, judgment. And I’m not for it.

It’s a numbers game.

10, 20, 0? Does it really matter what happens in our own rooms as long as it’s consensual? We’ve all at one time or another been made to feel shit about our sex life, lack of or even fruitful. It’s quite shameful that both men and women play the slut shaming game. If women were to wait for their dream partner to get off fifa, stop scratching their knackers and finally attempt to figure out the female anatomy, then we may be waiting a heck of a long time.

But men have needs.

Hate to knock you off that pedestal you’re on, but so do women. In fact a woman’s clitorius is 12 inches long. Which I think most people can agree can put men to shame. Sorry not sorry.

I’m not shaming men

This post is not me shaming men, in fact it’s not even meant to shame women but over the past few weeks I have seen so many tweets, comments and everything in the middle discussing women’s sex lives. Many of which fit into the slut shaming bubble. Didn’t your mum tell you, if you didn’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all?

It’s no ones right to sex.

Believe it or not, one gender doesn’t have the right to sex over the other. Gone are the days (or AT least they should be) where there is judgement when it comes to sex and the number of sexual partners you have.

Slut shaming needs to be a thing of the past. The negative implications of shaming others for enjoying themselves can stick with someone for life. Think about what you’re saying, how you say it and even if it’s worth saying it at all. Always be kind,Em x

6 thoughts on “Slut Shamers: Back off.

  1. So very true. I’ve been watching Love Island as a guilty pleasure, but I’m really bothered by some of the messaging – intentional or not – that comes out of it. Why is it still considered ‘slutty’ if a girl chooses to have casual sex?? Who cares as long as both parties consented and no other partner was getting hurt in the process?? This show makes it so apparent that women are judged by a different moral standard to men, and most often by other women. So sad that this is still a debatable issue in this century!!

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    1. Yes, yes, yes! I just don’t understand, women have fought for equal rights for decades and the fact that sex still isn’t seen to be a taboo subject is just ridiculous! Be safe, have fun and enjoy yourself.
      I couldn’t agree more, for example Adam who’s apparently slept with 200 women, he gets a slap on the back, Laura who slept with 30, gets called a slut. Massive no, no from me.

      Thank you so much for commenting, I was a bit worried about this post going live!

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  2. Girl, yes! I absolutely love this post. Who cares how many partners a woman has had? I always think it’s better to learn what you like and don’t like and be able to communicate it to a partner. It’s such a medieval idea that women should be chaste and pure until a man comes along to relive her. Women enjoy sex. Purple need to get over it.

    And that line about the clitorous made me laugh out loud!

    Rachel || https://www.wordofrachel.com

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    1. I couldn’t agree more. It really grinds my gears that we currently feel the need to name call. Never mind doing something as natural as sex. It happens, it’s how we all were brought into this world, I just don’t get the stigma.

      Thanks babe! Xxxx

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