Self-care, two words that two some mean a lush bath bomb and a glass of prosecco on a Friday. To others, its binge reading the entire Harry potter collection in a week. Self-love is a personal thing, no one person is exactly the same as another, with that, no one person’s interpretation of SC is the same.
Whilst our taste is different, we often reach for comfort when times get tough. When a confidence boost is needed we revert back to something calming; something we love that makes things just that little less stressful.
I, like so many others reach out for ‘little treats’, a luxe shower gel, a hair treatment. Something that when I look in my reflection or get a waft of sweetness off my skin, I can smile and know I’ve given myself a little boost. I can only advise on the things I have learnt and share my reasoning behind them. Please remember, just because these techniques work for me it doesn’t mean they work for everyone.
My first superficial point of this post is using Herbal Essences, Shampoo and conditioner. When I was a child I always associated HE with my mum. I have no idea why, or how this association with my mum. I just do. When I see the colourful packaging perched on the shelf at the side of the shower, I often get flashbacks of a bottle chilling next to my Ahoy may tee, bubble bath (blast from the past).
As silly as it sounds, brands sometimes are more than just a brand and HE is most definitely more than a brand to me.
One a Sunday night, I pop in the shower, wash my hair, exfoliate and shave my legs. My little routine really allows me to feel like I can take on the week. This little boost is missed when life runs away with me. I suppose, you could say, that this little routine of mine makes feel like I can take on the world- even though I only answer phone calls and send GIF’s to the girls.
Soul & Mind.
What, you thought I was going to say gin? Sorry babe, not this one.
In previous blogs I have openly spoken about my panic attacks, about not feeling good enough and well pretty much any other dirty bits of laundry floating around my tiny little brain. When my mind is going 4000 miles an hour and my to do list is off the charts, I meditate.
Initially a friend shared the head space app with me, and if I am 100% honest with you, I scoffed at the idea. How could an app that made me sit in silence with my eyes closed help me get through the way I was feeling? Well, I don’t know how, but it helped.
For those ten minutes a day I wasn’t the girl having a panic attack, it was just me having a moment and allowing my brain to calm. I understand the scepticism when it comes to meditation, but it worked for me.
Nowadays, I spend a few moments in the morning just sitting and listening to the tippy tapping of the dog’s foot prints on the hard wood flooring with a brew. Right now I may not be meditating how the headspace app taught me, but I am taking 10 minutes a day to find calm, which for me is what meditation was all about.
As much am ashamed to say it, I struggle to laugh. Life was so serious for me, until I learnt to let go of the rains and gave myself a break. Now, I tend to be the only one laughing at me dad jokes ( personally think I am the female equivalent to Lee Evans but ya know, others may disagree) and I am perfectly okay with that.
The point of this very confusing point is, laughing is good for the soul, it’s amazing for your mental health so if its funny laugh! You are most certainly allowed too.
This little blog, is something I have wanted to write for a little while. Over the past few months I have really started to reach for things that make me happy. Self-Care is personal, only you and you alone can work out what works for you. The above points are the things I reach for sometimes daily. Finding calm in the hustle and bustle of life is something we all need. Whether its reading or the latest Soap and Glory Face mask, no one has the right to tell you, you are doing it wrong. You are you, and only you will fully know what works for you.
If you would like to share the little bits of self-care you reach for when life gets a little rough I’d love you to leave a comment below.