Body Confidence: To do list!

Uncategorized August 28, 2017

Hello, my loves.

I honestly don’t know where to start with this post. So I apologise right now, if it seems like a big old brain fart- it is. But here goes nothing.

I hate the way I look.

At this moment in time I struggle to look comfortably at myself in the mirror. As far as I can remember I have always had weight issues. Being a massive comfort eater, my weight has yo yo’d for as long as I could eat. I don’t think a week goes by without a comment on my weight or back handed compliments get flung my way. Cause everyone wants to hear ‘ you’d be pretty if you lost a bit of weight’. Lovely!

I have always been conscious about my weight, over the past few months I’ve wanted to grow as a person. The way I look kind off fell to the wayside a little bit. At this moment in time I am so unbelievably proud that I have faced the obstacle’s I have, head on. I’ve kind of accepted that I was a horrible teen and an even more hideous person as a student. And I have rectified most of it. Or at least I hope I have.

This post isn’t to create a pitty party. This post is for me. A post I have created to remind myself on a few things.

1, Fuck the people who belittle you. They are only insecure themselves.

Now, Em, you know who they are.

Family, friends or whoever else constantly makes you feel shit about your weight or the way you look shouldn’t be given the time of day. When they are close members of family this is more difficult but isn’t impossible to do. You are stronger than you think, and they’re words don’t define you.

2, Get back to the gym.

The GYM? Yes.

The gym is an amazing outlet. Use the bikes, cross trainers or whatever piece of equipment you want, until you can’t think of those words any more. No one ever looks forward to going to the gym, but you will feel better for it. So, fucking go.

3, Stop using the scales.

Weighing scales are the devil.

Those numbers don’t define you. Don’t look at them you’ll be happier for it.

4, Remember this.

I constantly doubt myself, my abilities and pretty much everything else that comes my way. This is something I have to remind myself daily. The way I look is not the reason my ex cheated? It’s not the reason why some people want to put you down. And it is most certainly not the reason why you hated being the person you were.

So just remember. You, my dear are enough. *Repeat until it sinks in*

I could go on and on about this subject. Whether you are under, over or slap bang in the middle, YOU ARE AMAZING. *shed’s tear into my brew*


25, blogger. Swears a little too much and definitely drinks too much gin. Just a girl wanting to make the world smile.

Comments 15

  1. YellaHawk says on August 28, 2017

    So proud of you for sharing this! I relate so much to this. For me a mixture of tip 1 and tip 2 would be perfect, as I know how good the gym helps with how I feel in general but also need to go there for myself and not for anyone else! xxx


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  2. AbbeyLouisaRose says on August 30, 2017

    Aw Em! It breaks my heart to think that you don’t like the way you look! You’re a stunning girl with every reason to feel confident! If others seek to put you down and belittle you just for the way you look, it says way more about them than it does about you! Fat shaming is NOT OK! I absolutely agree with your manta that you are enough – I hope that you gain the confidence to really start believing it because you deserve to love yourself! Sending hugs!

    Abbey 🌸

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    • Em says on August 30, 2017

      Thank you lovely. I’ll be fine. I’ve achieved and been through more than I thought possible so to me this is just another bump in the road. Body shaming angers me so much and its something so many people have to deal with. Thanks Abbey, Massive Hugs xxxx


  3. Kayleigh Zara says on September 2, 2017

    I’m so heartbroken that you’re not a self confident person, I understand the feeling too well. I also find the gym is an amazing outlet for everything especially anger – it takes so motivation to get there but once your there it’s fab x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿

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    • Em says on September 11, 2017

      Its such an awful feeling. I sat and cried at the thought of being in a swimming costime the other day! The gym has helped way more than I can/could ever have imagined. I couldn’t agree more xxxx


  4. chloedickenson says on September 3, 2017

    Gorgeous girl, I don’t need to tell you how amazing you are and how bloody proud i am of you for sharing this. You’re my absolute hero and you’re the most incredible woman I know xx

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  5. Lauren says on September 12, 2017

    This is such an amazing post! Body confidence is such a hateful demon, so I’m sending you much love ❤ And definitely fuck the people who belittle you, for them to do that says more about them than you!

    Lauren | Lauren the Daydreamer

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    • Em says on September 20, 2017

      It really is and I think the more we talk about it- or lack of it, the more people will realise that it doesn’t define you.
      It really does xx


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